Having fun at the event so far - meeting new people, finding familiar faces, everyone loves the name tag (yes the light up ones the escape room sells lol)
But I had an experience tonight that took a bit of the wind outta my sails. Rather than bottling it, I figured I'd share.
I'm wearing my company polo - helps with the "What do you do?" question after we get past "Oh that's a cool nametag!" But one of the interactions noted the name, and said "Furry as in like..." and made a face. Uh oh.. 1/x
Politely I tried to redirect "Oh, like pets? Nah, it's just the name we have." The other person at the table said "No, he means like Furry, as in *those guys*." I replied, "Hey, they are a market I serve and they're just looking to live happy lives."
But I used they instead of *we*. I couldn't come out. I felt shame then, embarrassed of part of my identity, and I feel shame now, not standing up for myself and our community. It's causing me stress. I'm taking the time to notice and name it. 2/X
It's a conference that's celebrates LGBTQIA+ in business. Of all places, I wouldn't have expected dunking on "the other" from within the broader queer community here. But it indeed does exist - I know this - I just wasn't ready for it.
So I gotta sit with it a bit, breathe through it, self-soothe, and rebuild capacity to get back in the game and put my best foot forward. It's ok to feel sad about it. But I've had lots of other great meetups so far, and the week is just getting started! 3/3
@martinisoft I've seen you very actively embrace it and find it very courageous! Thank you so much for sharing your experience with this :)
It's very reminiscent of the broader coming out process, and when I was able to name it, then it felt familiar and accessible. And just like the broader coming out process, I can say I'm not ready yet, and that's OK.
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Martini