It's a conference that's celebrates LGBTQIA+ in business. Of all places, I wouldn't have expected dunking on "the other" from within the broader queer community here. But it indeed does exist - I know this - I just wasn't ready for it.

So I gotta sit with it a bit, breathe through it, self-soothe, and rebuild capacity to get back in the game and put my best foot forward. It's ok to feel sad about it. But I've had lots of other great meetups so far, and the week is just getting started! 3/3

Politely I tried to redirect "Oh, like pets? Nah, it's just the name we have." The other person at the table said "No, he means like Furry, as in *those guys*." I replied, "Hey, they are a market I serve and they're just looking to live happy lives."

But I used they instead of *we*. I couldn't come out. I felt shame then, embarrassed of part of my identity, and I feel shame now, not standing up for myself and our community. It's causing me stress. I'm taking the time to notice and name it. 2/X