Annalee Newitz 🍜
Honestly I will never get over how nice it is when people use they/them pronouns for me. My whole life I always flinched a little when people used "she," but I had basically gotten used to it, the way you get used to an achey knee. And then, when the pain goes away, you can't believe how much energy you were using to suppress that pain. Anyway, this is just to say thanks everybody for using they/them pronouns for me because it's a relief every time.
Aug 10, 2023 at 7:11pmWeb
Show threadSilversaltyAug 10, 2023
@annaleen
In my decades long effort to overcome my language block and learn French I'm always stumped why some languages gender everything. Why must how something might fuck be a basic tenent other than for procreation?
Show threadAlmighty LandruAug 10, 2023
@annaleen I wish there would finally exist words for they/them pronouns in German 😕
Show threaddagmar_finkAug 10, 2023
@Deercoffee @annaleen dey/dem, oder etwa nicht?
Show threadAlmighty LandruAug 11, 2023
@digitalfemme @annaleen wird das benutzt? Das habe ich noch nie gehört oder gelesen. Es hat sich halt, in meiner Erfahrung, noch keine gute Terminologie etabliert, die gut funktioniert und benutzt wird. Es läuft viel über Nennung des Vornamens, da kommt man dann aber halt an Grenzen.
Show threaddagmar_finkAug 12, 2023
@Deercoffee @annaleen ich kenne mehrere Personen, die alternativ ohne oder mit dey/dem-Pronomen angesprochen werden möchten. Wenn ich mich richtig erinnere, werden dey/dem auch in dem Kurzfilm "Mein Hosenschlitz ist offen. Wie mein Herz" von Marie-Luise Lehner für ein* nicht-binär*Protagonist* verwendet.
Kennst du @illiannaheger s Arbeit zu und Sammlung von Neopronomen? https://www.annaheger.de/pronomen/
Pronomen wie xier und sier – Illi Anna Heger – Grafische Dokumentation, Comics, Theorie und xier Pronomen

Show threadIlli A. HegerAug 12, 2023

@digitalfemme @Deercoffee @annaleen

ich hab auch ne Sammlung von Zitaten aus verschieden Medien wo sier und xier drin sind: https://www.annaheger.de/pronomentexte

die Liste für dey ist in Arbeit

xier dey und sier sind derzeit die verbreitetsten dt. Neopronomen, aber es gibt noch mehr, die benutzt werden, siehe https://nibi.space/pronomen

Xier Pronomen in Texten, Serien, Filmen und Video Games – Illi Anna Heger – Grafische Dokumentation, Comics, Theorie und xier Pronomen

Show threadAlmighty LandruAug 12, 2023
@illiannaheger @digitalfemme @annaleen danke für euren Input und die Links!
Show threadGalen StricklandAug 10, 2023
@annaleen I do my best to find out everyone's pronouns, although I've made some mistakes in the past, including for you.
Show threadJulesAug 10, 2023

@annaleen YES to only realize how much energy the pain took when it goes away! It also gives me a surge of happiness after thinking for years "yeah, that doesn't feel right, but whatever".

(Now I'm extra glad I made the effort to check your pronouns when posting about "The Terraformers"! Of course it's just polite, but it's still nice to hear how good it feels for you)

Show threadMichael VilainAug 10, 2023
@annaleen Now you're making me feel weird about mentally addressing you as "Yes, ma'am".
Show threadTom StrikerAug 11, 2023
@mvilain @annaleen Yes, Mx!
Show threadCockEyedJackAug 10, 2023
@annaleen are you Mx to?
Show threadAnnalee Newitz 🍜Aug 11, 2023
@Cockeyedjack yes
Show threadPrickly Pam (D-PA)Aug 10, 2023

@annaleen

Does it help when one of us uses "she," then immediately corrects ourselves?

Or does that kind of thing remind you of the knee ache but then immediately go away? Kind of a twinge?

Show threadAnnalee Newitz 🍜Aug 11, 2023
@PricklyPam a quick correction is just as good honestly. Everybody makes mistakes sometimes!
Show threadEhud MaimonAug 10, 2023
@annaleen
We so need something like this in Hebrew. The poet Yona Wallach once said "Hebrew is a sex maniac".
There are non-gendered forms being created, but most of them are created online and in writing, using special characters, so pronunciation is problematic.
Show threadHTTP 1.1/418 TeapotAug 10, 2023

@annaleen 👍👍👍

How delightful! I’m glad it’s being joyous for you.

YOU ARE SEEN
(wholesomely, not in some creepy lurking horror sort of way - yes I’ve been reading Lovecraftian stuff…)

Show threadJoshua A.C. NewmanAug 20, 2023
@annaleen I was just describing The Terraformers to my mom and she asked (for the dozenth time) about singular they. It led to a really good conversation about identity and how much less people have to hide what they’re like now compared to when she was a kid 60-80 years ago.
Show threadAnnalee Newitz 🍜Aug 20, 2023
@JoshuaACNewman that makes me so happy! 🫎
Show threadJoshua A.C. NewmanAug 20, 2023
@annaleen I think she’s going to have to have this conversation with a grandkid pretty soon so I’m easing the way.