Miss RosalieAug 3, 2023

BDSM MYTH: Punishment = Beatings.

It's not true! Punishment is defined by the intent to modify behavior. It's not about physical pain, but creating an unpleasant consequence. And what's unpleasant is entirely an individual thing.

I'm in the processing of writing a comprehensive guide on effective punishment, and it just surprises me how common this misconceptions is.

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Show threadJoy AF
@SilkenClaws yeah, I always automatically duck out of a conversation with a potential top if they make any kind of reference to spanking me for being ‘naughty’ because I love being spanked (and hate the word naughty, but that’s another thing) so how the fuck is that supposed to even work, Martin? You do know that masochists exist, yes?
Aug 3, 2023 at 11:36amWeb
Show threadMiss RosalieAug 3, 2023

@Joyasitflies
Yeah, exactly. As a sadist, I hate the narrative of punishment. No offence to anyone who's into it, but I just find it so unnecessary. If I want to hurt my sub, I will just hurt him.

Also, I feel like some of those people just don't want to openly come out and say they're sadists. Or even that they want to do impact play for fun.

Also also, I too hate the word 'naughty'. Personally I find kind of cringe in a D/s context.

Show threadJoy AFAug 3, 2023

@SilkenClaws yeah! Like no one involved can come out and say that the hitting is happening because they like hitting and the person being hit likes being hit. I really only want to play with people who absolutely fucking love hurting people because it’s fun for everyone involved.

And yeah, ‘naughty’ is literally just cringe. I’m not ‘naughty’, I’m a mucky little trashbag who wants to be covered in fluids and bruises, let’s be absolutely clear about this.