@mekkaokereke I feel like I've been yelling about this (and the consequences of this) for years. MAGA folks and their ilk didn't develop their views out of a vacuum, they were misled and manipulated and molded and then, sadly, made the best decision available to them based on piss-poor education and a lack of resources to correct that (which of course makes me a sound like a goddamn coastal elitist to say).
I was in the NCCC. I worked in the southwest region, and I remember my first deployment in Arkansas made my head spin. I was a "good white kid" from New England and the Midwest, and suddenly I was hearing old white men showing us around where we'd be working for the next two months and telling us the history of the "good slave owner" who's former property made up portions of Hobb's State Park. I heard the N-word used in real life for the first time, yelled at my team by a passing pickup truck with the stars and bars on the plate. Each time something like this happened I went into an indignant Yankee rage, and couldn't comprehend how these people could say and do such things when they were educated by the same country I was.
It's because they weren't. They "knew" everything they knew in the same way I did, because the information and world views I had been preloaded with at that point came from people and institutions in my life that I implicitly trusted at the time, as they must have.
My time in rural America in general confused the hell out of me for a while, because while the people I interacted with said and believed awful things, most of them were wonderful people. It made my head spin. I had never once experienced the same hospitality in the city anywhere near on the same level I had in rural America, in New England as well. The folks in Arkansas, New Mexico, Arizona would invite us into their homes, feed us well, absolutely roll out the red carpet, then say some of the most goddamn ignorant shit to my black team mates, who all had much more grace than I (because of course they did, that grace was a matter of survival to them). I couldn't understand the people saying those things, and I couldn't understand how my black team mates could just take it in stride. These weren't good people. They couldn't be, in spite of all evidence to the contrary.
I've been living in the Boston area for the past decade now, occasionally getting work somewhere rural for a season or too in an attempt to maintain my sanity. I don't know what the solution is. All I do know is most of the city people around me seem real willing to write off our current problems as a rural disease, and be content with the possibility of amputating them from our consideration and national identity at the first possible opportunity. Never mind that strangers from those regions took me in and fed me at the drop of a hat, and when I was struggling in the city the most I ever got was a "that's tough buddy, good luck!" from my closest friends... They are the problem and if we could just move on without then we'd be a better nation!
They are us. And the only way we get out of this and bring them on board is by maybe being humble enough to admit we don't have it all figured out either. Maybe we all need to learn from each other instead of just assuming our other half has nothing to offer us.
I feel uncomfortable leaving it there, as lot's of people are under existential threat from folks I am encouraging empathy for. Your empathy is not more important than your survival. But maybe, if you can afford to, if you have the privilege to have these interactions safely, use it.
I am not the person who should be taking up space this month on this topic. This is a time for people like me to listen, but I was also taught active listening involves contribution and support. I hope I managed to provide that and not detract from the conversation.