Lesley Carhart 
I only just released blogs talking about hiring culture and management expectations and I already feel obligated to write another about HUGE RED FLAGS you are being gaslit by your employer because dang it, Americans put up with unbelievable insanity and think they’re being done a great favor and owe a corporation something.
Just another reminder that your employer that is treating you badly will replace you without caring in like one nanosecond if they can, and you do not owe them some honorable debt to stay if they’re abusing you.
Gosh dang puritanical, prosperity theology culture…
a high doom@hacks4pancakes weve been social engineered
Infosec V'ger@hacks4pancakes I’m always struck by organizations that will tell you a standard two week notice should be driven for departing employees, who will also walk a person out with no notice and no severance pay.
Nazish@hacks4pancakes learned that lesson the hard way 😊
That Anonymous CowardIf you employer or future possible employer isn't beating what you could get working at Panera, perhaps they are the problem.
Nicole Parsons
Tim Stoop 
@hacks4pancakes You don't owe them some honorable debt to stay if they're not abusing you, either.
Greg Burrell 
🦞🚴🥔@hacks4pancakes Also true if they treat you like absolute royalty.
Lynoure Braakman@hacks4pancakes
Germany has quite a lot of that insanity too. Finland clearly less.
Are you familiar with Sick Systems, https://issendai.livejournal.com/572510.html? It describes one whole gaslighting system with eye-opening accuracy.
Sick systems: How to keep someone with you forever
So you want to keep your lover or your employee close. Bound to you, even. You have a few options. You could be the best lover theyve ever had, kind, charming, thoughtful, competent, witty, and a tiger in bed. You could be the best workplace theyve ever had, with challenging work, rewards…
@lynoure another link to try to open people’s eyes is always appreciated.
Kevin Wittek@lynoure @hacks4pancakes Can you expand on the differences you see between Germany and Finland? I tend to think the general employment laws in Germany are pretty fine and I mostly see folks treating work very much as work. I see those gaslighting sick systems more on piggery political and society levels.
@kiview
In Finland nearly no one would accept a job where they're so far away they only see their family on weekends. In Germany that seems to pretty common.
Additionally companies seem to be more old-fashioned and inflexible. But indeed, in neither country employees are seen as disposable, at least not the ones with a permanent contract.
The sick systems exist definitely in both countries, and in both they are mostly an exception, not the rule.
@hacks4pancakes
@lynoure @hacks4pancakes The second point I fully agree with and it can create its own weird dynamics within a system. And so bad when you work for public services...
Regarding working jobs far away, I would not say this is common from my experience, maybe more for some time limited jobs like consultants (I have also seen this with professors and universities). But I think it is also a shifting trend, family is getting a higher priority.
The hiring ad for your position will be out before your obituary.
If someone who bought a house with their paycheck back in the 50's is telling you how to get a job today... why are you listening?
I can tell you why WFWG was the best windows ever, and you rightly should call me out on that.
Why did you leave this job early?
I wasn't a good fit with their culture so we parted ways... is the polite way to say I got tired of getting screamed at & blamed for everything.
🧑💻🐴 
@hacks4pancakes it's interesting to notice how many "self-help" books are all about how to surrender yourself more to your employer.
Then glorifying "success" as how much you work for your employer... and are managed to feel guilty if not working at minimum 120%. 
premium gaslighting.
All express routes to burnout, and being broken.
Sadly, as soon as that happens, I've seen too often, irrespective of how excellent a person is at what they do, how quickly a for-cause dismissal happens despite no prior issues. 
Steve Freeman
The Real Stephen@hacks4pancakes Australian’s are just the same, Everyone is currently trying to find full-time employment and are not willing to leave a bad employer until they find a new one.
The employers know this and they screw down their employee’s rights and entitlements knowing that they will not move.
I payed a high personal price to learn about how much an ex-employer valued me and my work output.
HTTP 1.1/418 Old Teapot Typewriter Font@hacks4pancakes We put up with so much. A whole lot of American employees will say "thank you" and "I'm sorry" when you lay them off.
Sterling@hacks4pancakes
At one time (a long time ago) there was at least a bit of reciprocity.
And yet now companies wonder why they can't find workers or why they can't keep workers.
At one time (a long time ago) there was at least a bit of reciprocity.
And yet now companies wonder why they can't find workers or why they can't keep workers.
Rob Pomeroy@hacks4pancakes I've had conversations with colleagues and mentees about the imbalance of power between employer/boss and employee. Real lightbulb moment.
The imbalance of power is the reason employers have a duty of care. But many will only honour that duty if their feet are held to the flames. And that power imbalance is the reason meeker employees don't even notice the gaslighting or more subtle forms of bullying.
Decent standards require legislation, just like (shameless infosec segue) there will be no secure IOT until there are rigorous, enforced safety standards... (I think I'm with Bruce Schneier on that one.) I digress.