Dany🇮🇹Jan 1, 2023
I worry a lot that my weight is holding me back from finding a man. I think if I was thinner I would’ve had a boyfriend by now. I really don’t like my body and I’ve stopped losing weight. My weight is becoming an obsession and I don’t know what to do.
Show threadDany🇮🇹

Like some days I hate it so much.

These are the thoughts i have:

If I was thinner my life would be easier. I could get any guy I want. I could feel beautiful. I’d do anything to be taller and slender. Not the one I have now. People may actually respect me more. I won’t have that disgusting round face of mine. Im ugly. Im disgusting. Im fat. My body is horrendous. I don’t deserve to be confident in my skin. I don’t deserve a man. Im the ugliest woman on earth. Im not feminine. Im not beautiful.

:(

Jan 1, 2023 at 12:19amWeb
Show threadHearthstone Office TechJan 1, 2023
@cybersecdancer feeling similar as a man. Heaviest I've ever been rn. Not doing wonders for the ol' confidence.
Show thread"Extinct" OncelerJan 1, 2023
@cybersecdancer I assure you that you are good enough, smart enough, and pretty enough to find a significant other. Someone is just waiting for you out there. The things you think are flaws are not, whatever the voice in your head might say. Be of good cheer!
Show threadJerry 🦙💝🦙Jan 1, 2023

@cybersecdancer I enjoy watching the passion you put into your tap videos. I’m just a faceless internet stranger - nothing I can say will change anything for you - I won’t claim to know what you’re going through. But I wish you the best. I want to see you succeed. The world is a better place with you in it. I look forward to seeing posts about happier days for you. But we are here to listen regardless.

Happy new year!

Show threadJohnny Jan 1, 2023
@cybersecdancer
I feel your pain. Truly. Like these words were my own. Even though I'm happily married, to a woman who says she thinks I'm hot, and the cutest baby girl who says in her superhero and gorgeous.
(It probably won't, but) may 22 have been the last year we felt this.
Show threadBlue Cat Defends!Jan 1, 2023
@cybersecdancer so many people share these feelings, myself included. I have body dysmorphia so even though I’m happily married to someone who constantly tells me I’m perfect just the way I am… I *still* have the same thoughts you have. So finding a significant other will not make you love your body more. We have to find healthy ways to accept our bodies - I have to work on this daily. You’re not alone in this struggle ❤️❤️
Show threadLynn GrantJan 3, 2023

@cybersecdancer IIRC, you said you are of Italian heritage. A lot of Italians have round faces. And there are a lot of Italians—enough to fill up a whole country and more. So there is some evidence that round faces are not disgusting.

There is not a consensus on what makes a woman attractive, in spite of what PlayBoy and Sports Illustrated (and some clueless guys) may tell you.

I have known big women and small women and busty women and not-so-busty women who were sexy as hell. What they had in common was self-confidence. They *rocked* their bigness, smallness, bustiness, or not-so-bustiness.

I am well aware that aligning what you feel in your heart and what you know in your head is not easy. I have struggled with that myself.

But I wanted you to know that some of the messages you are internalizing are not true.

Show threadLynn GrantJan 3, 2023
@cybersecdancer There is, as they say, a lid for every pot. It may take a while to find it. I was 48 before I found the love of my life, who I have happily been with for 23 years.
Show threadDany🇮🇹Jan 3, 2023
@lynngrant yes you are right. I’ve had people call me fat because of my face. :(