Dany🇮🇹Jan 1, 2023
I worry a lot that my weight is holding me back from finding a man. I think if I was thinner I would’ve had a boyfriend by now. I really don’t like my body and I’ve stopped losing weight. My weight is becoming an obsession and I don’t know what to do.
Show threadDany🇮🇹Jan 1, 2023

Like some days I hate it so much.

These are the thoughts i have:

If I was thinner my life would be easier. I could get any guy I want. I could feel beautiful. I’d do anything to be taller and slender. Not the one I have now. People may actually respect me more. I won’t have that disgusting round face of mine. Im ugly. Im disgusting. Im fat. My body is horrendous. I don’t deserve to be confident in my skin. I don’t deserve a man. Im the ugliest woman on earth. Im not feminine. Im not beautiful.

:(

Show threadLynn Grant

@cybersecdancer IIRC, you said you are of Italian heritage. A lot of Italians have round faces. And there are a lot of Italians—enough to fill up a whole country and more. So there is some evidence that round faces are not disgusting.

There is not a consensus on what makes a woman attractive, in spite of what PlayBoy and Sports Illustrated (and some clueless guys) may tell you.

I have known big women and small women and busty women and not-so-busty women who were sexy as hell. What they had in common was self-confidence. They *rocked* their bigness, smallness, bustiness, or not-so-bustiness.

I am well aware that aligning what you feel in your heart and what you know in your head is not easy. I have struggled with that myself.

But I wanted you to know that some of the messages you are internalizing are not true.

Jan 3, 2023 at 3:59pmWeb
Show threadLynn GrantJan 3, 2023
@cybersecdancer There is, as they say, a lid for every pot. It may take a while to find it. I was 48 before I found the love of my life, who I have happily been with for 23 years.
Show threadDany🇮🇹Jan 3, 2023
@lynngrant yes you are right. I’ve had people call me fat because of my face. :(