Amelia 🏳️⚧️ BaeddeliaI'm coming around to the idea that #onlinecommunities based around a shared #identity can be great tools for exchanging information and coordinating the distribution of resources and in-person meetups in general but it's a terrible idea to use them as a primary #social space. 1/4
The handful of times in the last few weeks when I've had actual in-person interaction it's become alarmingly clear to me how socially starved I've been and how online stuff just isn't sating that hunger. 2/4
I have this mythical idea in my mind of #solidarity with other #marginalizedpeople, especially people who are #marginalized in the same ways that I am or similar, as a moral principle, but I think my problem is that I've been conflating the #political with the #personal. 3/4
I think now that while #politicalsolidarity with other #marginalizedpeople is vital, social and personal #solidarity is just a myth, because marginalized people are just people, no more trustworthy on an individual level than any other person. 4/4
People are informing me that not everyone has the luxury of in-person #community...
...You know that I CAME OUT AS #TRANS A WEEK BEFORE THE #PANDEMIC #LOCKDOWNS, right?
The whole reason I'm wrestling with this in the first place is because #onlinecommunity kept me alive and sane during the loneliest and most vulnerable time in my life. 5/4
Tattie (old account)@autogynamelia awkward lockdown transes unite!
Aphrodite (recharging)fwiw imho it’s possible to find solidarity with the specific cause even if not with the whole person
your union sib who goes to the rwnj church and might be an ass is still someone you work with and getting screwed by management
solidarity on one ground is not solidarity on all grounds
i’m probably wrong though so..
Fugue State Machine MotoSolidarity does *not* equate to unconditional trust. I can be in solidarity with all sorts of people who I wouldn’t let borrow my laptop for the day.
In fact, if someone asks me to trust them, based on an argument involving solidarity, that’s a HUGE red flag for me.
@autogynamelia @Aphrodite (again, that psyops pattern, the one I cannot stop seeing. They’re expert mindfuckers, our infiltrators)
SimonTheVampyre@autogynamelia I've begun to base my judgements of other people's trustworthiness on whether or not they have irrational fears of people who are different to them, regardless if they themselves are marginalized or not.
It was something I realized I had to do after a close friend and trans woman revealed she was enbyphobic, believing that non-binary people hurt other LGBTQ people's legitimacy in the eyes of cishets by just existing, and only tolerated me because I was "one of the good ones".