Show threadVox and the Pack May 28, 2025

If you cannot go no contact your next best bet is #greyRocking or #yellowRocking. You become non-reactive to their actions. You stay calm, controlled, rational, and emotionally disengaged. It's hard but possible.

When you do that you take away the abuser's power over you. They no longer can control you through your emotions. Just be prepared: they'll most likely double down on the abuse before accepting the fact that you can no longer be controlled by them. And they'll most likely never stop probing you as long as you are still in contact with them.

If you can go no contact. Do it for yourself. You deserve better.

#abuse #emotionalAbuse #narcissisticAbuse #neurodivergent #autistic #actuallyAutistic #actuallyADHD #actuallyAuDHD

Vox and the Pack Apr 20, 2025

Having to maintain my relationship to the #narcissist that abused me is becoming the biggest challenge of my life. No contact is not an option as we have kids.

I'm processing the emotional abuse I experienced. I'm grieving the woman that never was her. It's a lot of very raw and very intense emotions.

And I'm doing all of that while I need to regularly interact with my abuser. It's a gigantic mind fuck.

I'm reclaiming a lot of my agency by #yellowRocking extensively. Killing her with kindness. Ignoring her emotional baits that are meant to trigger a fight I'd lose anyway. I'm getting #revenge by being my best fucking self. Let the kids see that unconditional kindness is possible while enforcing boundaries.

But I'm not gonna lie. It takes my everything. Being kind to my abuser when everything in me screams for justice is a challenge like no other. #RadicalAcceptance is most definitely non-optional.

I might not win the battles but I will win the war.

#trauma #narcissisticAbuse #actuallyAutistic