@ThankYouScott just not being a dick to anyone/everyone would be a start, you can always by critical about someone's action, which could also be done by not being a dick. You don't need to be kind all the time, and you shouldn't except other to be kind to you.
I think that if being #kind conflicts with being #honest, you should be honest. That mean not being a dick; that means to just not be kind and being critical to someone. #dontbeadickhead #doenormaal