Limitations & Radical Mercy

This piece was originally written in 2023. As I continue to grow and learn through Radical acceptance, I have discovered another facet of healing—Radical Mercy. I have updated the piece to expand on this theme and its place in fostering resilience and acceptance.

Each one of us experiences times of hitting our limit, and these limits can be in the form of physical limits, mental limits, or manufactured limiting beliefs. Understanding the difference between limiting beliefs and actual physical or mental limitations is vital to thriving. We have the power within us to shift limiting beliefs, whereas substantial physical or psychological impediments require radical acceptance and mercy.

Limiting Beliefs

Limiting beliefs arise from the stories we tell ourselves. These typically begin in childhood during the impressionable age of three to eight. Something as simple as being told by a teacher that you are slow or sloppy creates tension within the self. For a child, a moment of questioning arises. “Am I sloppy? I must be since an adult – an authority figure whom I have been told is smarter, more knowledgeable (or insert any word consistent with “better than”); therefore, it must be so, and I am sloppy.”

Here lies the danger. The “I” is not sloppy. Maybe the “I” actions were negligent, but that is momentary behavior that the “I” can change if presented with options or explanations.

Our language imparts the need for more understanding and discernment of the moment’s truth. We must distinguish the doing from the doer. We are not our thoughts or actions, but we are responsible for our thoughts and actions. One who is established in discernment understands the ground of being.

We, as experiencers of emotions, thoughts, and actions, need to be aware of the effect of our emotions, ideas, and actions on ourselves and others. Through these unmindful actions, we unwittingly impose limiting beliefs on ourselves and others.

Mindful Discernment

Shifting limiting beliefs is rooted in mindful discernment. Having a sense that something is not right, not quite so, is the first step in shedding attachments, in this case, attachment to outworn beliefs and lifestyle patterns. This altering of one’s course is usually a gradual transformation; it requires skillful effort, such as mindful attention and great patience.

Altering Perspective

For example, as a child, I was told I could not run far due to activity-induced asthma, as I seemed to get winded quickly on occasion. What I heard was, “Kristen cannot run.” Allowing this thought pattern to solidify in my being, I did not think otherwise until I was 27, a year and a half after giving birth to my son; I decided to start jogging to regain my strength and stamina. I thought, what is the worst thing that could happen? I get out of breath, take a break, and walk. So that’s what I did. On my first jog, I was ridiculously out of breath; my chest was on fire. I stopped and focused on breathing, willing the breath to find its natural rhythm. It did, and I walked the rest of the way, mindful of my breath and body.

I did not pass out, and I did not have any adverse reactions, so I persevered. Releasing my attachment to any outcome, I focused on putting one foot in front of the other until I could not. After a few months, I was able to jog a full mile. I celebrated the achievement as I had, through discernment, discovered “Kristen can run.”

I ran for the next ten years. Running became a passion as it allowed freedom from thoughts and actions. I found a sense of pure being in the sound of my soles slap, slap, slapping the pavement, a peacefulness I had only experienced in yoga or meditation.

Gracious Acceptance

Thus, overcoming this one limiting belief opened the doors to remove the mental obstacles I had placed in my way throughout my life; the question begged to be asked, “What other self-made challenge could I overcome? The answer was deeply resonant- I could overcome any limiting belief I had constructed: this can be distilled down to attachment to the fruits of any idea, thought, or action. Bear in mind, this did not mean I could necessarily run a marathon. Realistically, I needed to understand the difference between limiting beliefs and actual physical limitations. My knees would not take running a marathon. Over the 10 years I ran, I accrued much damage to joints, a stress fracture, and a broken bone in my foot. My physical limitation prevented me from running a marathon, but it was not a limiting belief.

For this, gracious acceptance is required. My yoga practice cultivated the understanding I needed for this acceptance.

Please note that by yoga practice, I do not mean only the asanas or poses, as is the prevalent understanding of yoga in the US. I am indicating the fullness of the embodiment of yogic principles and philosophy, of which the postures are a part of the much more comprehensive practice.

Again, much like shifting limiting beliefs, accepting physical or psychological limitations takes time and patience. Rallying against the natural flow of our life path or playing the victim of our circumstances only creates more suffering. Adjusting one’s view to the present moment allows for space where we may plant the seeds of acceptance. When we align ourselves with the present moment, we can no longer be distracted by the “what-ifs” of the past or ensnared in anxiety over the unmanifest future. We begin to nurture the seeds of acceptance with loving kindness and patience.

“In the space we create through present-moment awareness, infinity awaits.”

KMS

Physical Limitations

As an example, the chronic migraines I experience are physical limitations. Additionally, for the last three years, I have developed other symptoms that can impair my ability to speak or think clearly, drive, or partake in activities that bring me great joy, such as hiking and yoga (asana). Prevalent muscle weakness, joint pain, neuropathy, and confusion, such as forgetting where I am or what I am doing, can be dangerous in specific settings. My awareness of my limitations is keen.

Of course, at the onset, these symptoms were frightening and frustrating. Experiencing migraine from a very young age, I was potentially in a more desirable space to adjust to the additional limitations. Still, canceling plans and adapting from an active lifestyle to one spent mainly on the couch caused anger, resentment, fear, and sadness to arise. I had to sit with my emotions and make friends with the pain and anxiety to overcome dwelling on what I could not do. I needed to invite the sadness into my being and experience it fully to taste its essence to mourn what I perceived as a loss.

Loss

Losses can be viewed as destruction; we create new ideas, paths, and a new view of our predicaments through mindful destruction. In my case, it was not the joys of my past that were destroyed but my attachment to how things “must” be. It is not “I love hiking; therefore, I will always be a hiker.” I enjoy the sense of aliveness, freedom, and connection with nature that hiking affords my spirit. This experience and this sense of space can manifest through other pursuits. The destruction of one path provides a clearer view of a new path that is untrodden and full of pure potentiality. This potential is available to us in every moment. In the space we create through present-moment awareness, infinity awaits.

Radical Mercy

What allowed this space to manifest? Radical Mercy. Acceptance is acknowledging and embracing reality as it is without trying to resit or change it. Meanwhile, mercy goes beyond acceptance by introducing kindness, grace, and relief. While acceptance says, “This is how they are,” mercy says, “Even though this is reality, I choose compassion over condemnation.”

Radical mercy is not passive; it is grace in action, a powerful force that compels individuals to respond to suffering with compassion and understanding. It is a transformative act that defies conventional notions of justice and fairness, challenging societal norms that often prioritize punishment over healing. It is mercy given without conditions, disrupting cycles of judgment and resentment, creating space for reconciliation and growth. This profound willingness to extend grace to ourselves is a radical act, especially in the face of limitations. Mercy is required to release feelings of disillusionment or failure to meet one’s own expectations of self.

Having mercy for myself has transformed the experience of chronic illness, not as something to endure but as a way to invite grace, patience, and even healing. The bitterness and weight of perceived failure of what now cannot be can be suffocating, but mercy has softened this, allowing space for self-compassion. It is a radical act to say, “I am worthy of kindness, even from myself.” This shift does not change my illness, but provides a new path of experiencing life itself.

“I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection.”

KMS

I now have a deeper appreciation for the cycles of nature as I see my path reflected in its seasons, as I experienced a time of blossoming and unfolding, as well as times of mourning and destruction. The two sides of the coin, non-duality expressed in each moment, for life implies death, and vice versa.

As I align myself with what my body, mind, and spirit are capable of in each moment, I sense the blossoming of the seeds of acceptance, spreading peaceful contentment through my sacred vessel, allowing appreciation of the nuance and texture of the tapestry of the universe and the mystery of its weaving.

Please note that if you suffer from limitations causing you physical or mental anguish, I recommend talking with a trusted professional.
Start with your primary care doctor if you are still figuring out where to ask for help. For mental health assistance: https://jwww.samhsa.gov/

I look forward to continuing to explore the concept of radical mercy over the next few weeks, delving deeper into its nuances and exploring the idea beyond the self. This journey involves examining how radical mercy can be harnessed as a powerful social tool that fosters understanding and improves communication between individuals and communities. Promoting empathy and compassion in our interactions can create an environment where differences are celebrated rather than feared. Through the application of radical mercy, we can bridge divides, dismantle prejudices, and ultimately cultivate a more harmonious society where dialogue thrives and connections are strengthened.

Wishing heartfelt blessings for a serene and beautiful holy weekend to everyone celebrating.

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