Quitting status games
The process of dislodging myself from these games began with paying more attention to who my true models were.
If you want to know what your calling is, what will satisfies you, what you want to be, pay attention to whom you admire. Then ask, why I admire them? Or what qualities I admire in them? That is a good start.
I worshipped their agency, their self-assuredness, their confidence that doing what felt right was the path that made the most sense—even if it didn’t make much sense to others, even if it meant foregoing some impressive thing that they “could” do, something others said was the Right path.
Only people who quit status games are those that realize they have agency. Most people are playing some form of status games - impressing someone else.
My friend P.K. Khu₹ana said: "You think, people are impressed by you driving an expensive car. People are not. They are impressed by the car. It could be a monkey driving the car."
I suddenly remembered I had agency: the ability to* decide what I wanted to do, not just what everyone else told me was Desirable.*
We all have what it takes to do what we really desire or to go after our calling. But we are afraid.
*> *the point of optionality was to use it—not to continue accruing more options indefinitely, but to start choosing the options that felt most right to me.
Options expire. When you exercise your option, they multiply. They give you more options.
**> **I was capable, I knew that. but I didn’t yet realize that capability wasn’t an obligation. Just because I could, doesn’t mean I needed to. True capability meant having real options.
This is a hard lesson at least for me. Capability is not an obligation. Capability is an option.
the only definition of smart that really resonates with me is: the ability to get what you actually want out of life.
This is the line why I read the full article. Smartness is the ability to get what you actually want out of life. Not playing games that other deem important.
*> *the product of learning, of optionality, of mentorship, of time in front of “important people”, are very marketable products to young people hungry to succeed, grow, and win the games they’re playing.
earning them comes with significant costs—the most painful of which is:** betraying yourself.**
Every venture and pursuit has a cost. Know the cost of your pursuit. And be willing to pay it.
src: https://read.mindmine.xyz/p/status
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