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Accountability is a Two-Way Street 

Let’s have a little “come to Jesus” meeting, shall we?

I posted a quote today that really touched my spirit—and by “touched my spirit,” I mean it made me want to tag about five different people, but I chose peace and just hit “upload” instead. The quote said: “I’ll admit my wrongs, but you ain’t about to just sit there and act like you ain’t do shit.”

Can I get an amen? Or at least a “girl, same”?

Owning My Flaws and Personal Growth

Look, I’m at a point in my life where I’m okay with being the villain in someone’s story if it means I’m being honest. I’m grown. I’ve got flaws. I’ve got a “Tina” way of doing things that isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. If I messed up, I’ll own it. I’ll look you in the eye and say, “Yeah, I was out of pocket. My bad.” I’ll even do the whole “I’m sorry” song and dance if the situation calls for it.

BUT—and this is a big, capital-B ‘But’—

Do not think for one second that my confession is a hall pass for you to play the victim. We are not doing that today. We are not doing that this year. In fact, let’s just retire that move entirely.

The Trap of the One-Sided Apology

You know the type. You’re in the middle of a heated discussion, and you finally say, “Fine! I shouldn’t have raised my voice. I was wrong for that.”

And then… silence.

They just sit there, nodding like a judge passing a sentence. They’re looking at you with that “I’m glad you finally realized how difficult you are” face. Meanwhile, I’m sitting here thinking, Wait a minute. Are we just going to skip over the three hours of gaslighting and the passive-aggressive comments that led me to raising my voice in the first place? Is that the game we’re playing? Because I didn’t bring my jersey for that sport.

Why Accountability Matters in Relationships

I own my mistakes because I want to grow. I want to be a better version of Tina than I was yesterday. But accountability isn’t a gift I give you so you can feel superior; it’s a door I’m opening so we can both walk through it and fix the problem.

If I’m the only one standing in the “I Messed Up” zone while you’re lounging in the “I’m Perfect” lounge, the math just doesn’t add up. The equation is broken.

My New Rules for Mutual Accountability

So, here’s how it’s going down from now on:

Walking the Marathon Together

Relationships—whether they’re with your partner, your best friend, or your cousin who always “forgets” her wallet at dinner—require two people to be real. I’m happy to take the first step, but I’m not walking the whole marathon for both of us.

Stop Playing the Victim

If I’m big enough to admit my wrongs, you better be big enough to acknowledge yours. Otherwise, you’re just sitting there in a house of cards waiting for a breeze.

And let’s be real… I can be a very strong breeze when I want to be.

Stay real, stay accountable, and for the love of everything, stop acting like you’re innocent when we both know you’ve got receipts too.

Love,

Tina

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