"people saw "trans men are men" and took that to mean "trans men are like cismen in every way including being oppressors" instead of "trans manhood is just as legitimate as cis manhood" because they think cis manhood is the default and refuse to deconstruct the gender binary"

– @reyphorian, https://x.com/reyphorian/status/2021281122370408591

#antitransmasculinity #transmasculinity

"American masculinity is being critiqued, questioned, and reinterpreted for a new era. In Men in Place Miriam J. Abelson makes an original contribution to this conversation through in-depth interviews with trans men in the U.S. West, Southeast, and Midwest, showing how the places and spaces men inhabit are fundamental to their experiences of race, sexuality, and gender.

Men in Place explores the shifting meanings of being a man across cities and in rural areas. Here Abelson develops the insight that individual men do not have one way to be masculine—rather, their ways of being men shift between different spaces and places. She reveals a widespread version of masculinity that might be summed up as “strong when I need to be, soft when I need to be,” using the experiences of trans men to highlight the fundamental construction of manhood for all men.

With an eye to how societal institutions promote homophobia, transphobia, and racism, Men in Place argues that race and sexuality fundamentally shape safety for men, particularly in rural spaces, and helps us to better understand the ways that gender is created and enforced."

https://www.upress.umn.edu/9781452959634/men-in-place/

#transmasculinity #transmascstudies

Stanley’s Deadname Is Stacey.

🏳️‍⚧️

#DrSTONE #StanleySnyder #Transgender #Trans #Transmasculine #Transmasc #Transmasculinity #FemaleToMale #FTM #Headcanons #Headcanon

"Materialist transfeminism has to theorize Anti-transmasculinity."

This is the end sentence of this brilliant brilliant text by Nsámbu Za Suékama, which, in detail and by showing the many ways in which Racial paternalism and Patrirachal hegemony try to recapture struggles against them, describes why we need to take anti-transmasculinity serious as transfeminists.
"Racial-Class Paternalism and the Trojan Horse of Anti-transmasculinity"
https://en.theanarchistlibrary.org/library/nsambu-za-suekama-racial-class-paternalism-and-the-trojan-horse-of-anti-transmasculinity/

Here a thread with some quotes from it (if the quoting feature didnt work):
https://social.treehouse.systems/@auriblackcat/ 114724501453649382

#transfeminism
#anarchafeminism
#transmasculinity
#feminism
#neocolonialism

We made a zine about transphobic interactions as a transmasculine person. It's lightly pornographic and quite angry.
I made words and photos, and @supernovacircus provided illustrations.

How to interact with transmasculine people without being fucking transphobic - Volume 1

https://voidkvlt.itch.io/how-to-interact-with-transmasculine-people-without-being-fucking-transphobic-vol

#transmasculinity #transmasc #zine #zines #transphobia

That feeling when you find out that a transmasc was instrumental in the Stonewall Riots 🥹

#transmasculinity #trans #pride #alt4me

Oh, one last thing I want to share before I go to sleep.

Something I'm hoping to achieve when I start my HRT is gaining weight.

I know it sounds weird, but honestly? I find myself enamoured with the idea every time I think about it.

The ideals of hegemonic masculinity have been reinforced through the images of skinny or athletic, male bodies. Fat bodies are only conditionally accepted under specific conditions. Otherwise, fatness is viewed as a personal and moral failure; something to fear, to hate, to despise.

I feel some of that fatphobia dips into transmasculinity. Because for the longest time, the most represented, transmasc bodies, have been skinny or athletic (not to mention, white and able-bodied, but I don't wanna speak on behalf of POC and physically disabled transmascs as I have not lived through their experiences — but I wanted to mention that as well).

Indirectly, it sends that message that 'to be masc is to be skinny'. A thin body is "a blank slate", whereas a fat body is more likely to be gendered (in the case of AFAB folks, it's harder to be perceived as anything but a woman).

But I don't share that view. In my days researching transmasc topics and looking at images of others' transitions, I've fallen in love with the diversity; the way T redistributes body fat, the different ways you can make an outfit work; the attitude you emanate, and so much more.

To me, fatness is just as masculine as skinny and athletic are. Fat is beautiful.

While I don't think I am 'fat', more mid-size, I'm someone who was fat in his adolescence and has struggled with body weight, due to a combination of mental illness, hormonal imbalances, and difficulties with food and exercise. I've been discriminated against by medical professionals for my weight. I've been objectified as well.

It has always been hard for me to lose weight, and frankly, it's something I don't care for nowadays. I haven't had any significant health issues stemming from it. I try to take care of my body and mind as best as I can, despite the highs and lows.

Imagining myself fatter doesn't cause me any emotional distress. The opposite, actually. It gives me a lot of gender euphoria.

I wanna have a masculine belly, wider arms, man boobs, and a whole lot of body hair. I wanna have trucker vibes — but like, nice trucker. Just living life; being happy, kind; and helping others.

It's hard for me to separate my transition and my weight, as I mentioned before, T redistributes your body mass. However, what I'm trying to get at, is that I'm not scared, and I'm hopeful T will help me feel more at peace with my body.

The bottom line is, I think attitudes surrounding fatness and (trans)masculinity should change. Fat trans men and transmascs deserve so much better. Fat transmasculinity should be celebrated and cherished as any other transmasc experience.

#transmasc #transmasculinity #fatness #fat

Earlier today, @carasutra shared this excellent article from her site:

How I Dominate My Slaves: A Domme Point Of View
https://carasutra.com/2019/08/how-i-dominate-my-slaves-domme-point-of-view/

"This makes female dominance something of an oddity, when it comes to many people’s opinion of this area of BDSM. Even for many people within the BDSM sphere."

I did femdom and pro-domination about a dozen lifetimes ago, and Cara's observation is definitely one I could have signed off on (among a lot more in there). But in terms of my present experiences, her article started a train of thought that reminded me of something else:

Transmasc dominants appear to be vanishingly rare.

Which is interesting, because D/S doesn't necessarily even have the potential technical/dysphoria issues that go with topping vs bottoming for many transmasculine people (sex is optional, straps and hands and toys exist, surgical modifications can be functionally amazing, and, and for all of that, a bottom can be a potent dominant - I'll refer you to my last fic drop).

And okay, I'm pretty strongly dom-leaning† and have been for a long time, but the surging emotionality and power that go with testosterone, not to mention the sheer urge to fuck something, anything; the shades of physical transcendence; of overturning and imposing one's will upon the limitations of mere biological chance...

....it all feels like exactly the kind of thing to make you want to put someone in their place, whimpering at your feet for a taste of your boot, of the lash, for the opportunity to worship you, to be stripped of autonomy and shown the intimacy of the most exquisite and loving pain and debasement.

There are some strong Do Unto vibes to be found in that little glass vial††.

So, I'd be expecting a lot of transmasc doms, in both T4T pairings and those that involve cis people.

Honestly, I have no answers here, but I'm at this point determined to continue finding transmascs to dominate, take apart, and explore the inner workings of, even to train into dominance themselves, until I get my fucking answers.

I wonder if something that might factor into my experience is that, for quite a while before transition (before the aroace period that preceded it) I moved in predominately lesbian spaces, where - obviously - female and female-adjacent dominance is the norm (although there are interesting things to say about butch/femme archetypes), and it was thus normalised to acquire that skillset and a specific self-image as a dominant if you were at all that way inclined.

Is this a matter of access?
That trans guys, especially those who moved and move in more androphilic circles lacked for opportunities to express and embody dominance, weren't encouraged to hone a razor's edge onto their affection, to place a gentle guard on weaponised vitriol sufficient to make it safe to inflict on others?

Is it simply a matter of submission being easier if - even if you are not subconsciously feminised - you are generally perceived as smaller, as a thing that gets fucked, as archetypally breedable†††?

Because, my beautiful, fucked-up boys, some of you could be so good at dominance. And will be if I get half a chance to influence you.

† which makes it all the more fun when I don't

†† humming "Zytrate comes in a little glass vial. A little glass vial? A little glass vial .. and the Zytrate gun goes somewhere against your anatomy"

††† don't get me fucking started on this one. It's definitely fun to play with psychologically, but also, I've literally bred, and kink-breedability and sexual reproduction feel like they exist in very different spaces.

#BDSM #transmasculinity #dominance