「He had calculated that its (child abuse) overall costs exceeded those of cancer or heart disease and that eradicating child abuse in America would reduce the overall rate of depression by more than half, alcoholism by two-thirds, and suicide, IV drug use, and domestic violence by three-quarters. 」

妈耶，太恐怖了，child abuse 是 nation's largest public health problem 但根本没几个人知道。

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#在读什么

#TheBodyKeepsTheScore 的作者有一次试图找十二个女性来当对照组，需求是从没有过创伤和没在吃药，结果发现竟然是惊人地难找，怎么说也是有点符合我的印象的。

反而是他说之前一次2000人的 attachment 研究发现百分之六十多的人是安全型还挺令人惊讶的，原来这么多。

#在读什么

老中长大的孩子们在达不到高到无理的要求的时候，往往会觉得是自己的的问题，直到很多年后的某一天突然意识到，真正有问题的是要求本身。

合理的要求是在你的能力范围内的，可以高一点点，垫垫脚能够到的。再往上，那就不再是善意的要求和标准，而是torture。#TheBodyKeepsTheScore 里面提到过，创伤就产生于无能为力之间。

#TheBodyKeepsTheScore 前面提过一点，越战老兵被噩梦折磨但不愿意吃药，因为如果吃药他好转了的话，就仿佛背叛了他死去的战友，仿佛他们不再存在了。

其实很有道理来着，多少创伤不仅仅是走不出来，还有一些不愿意走出来。

#在读什么

人为什么会一次一次回到自己被abuse的情境里，大概是因为大脑已经适应并且找到了新的平衡，这样当你想再次打破这个平衡的时候，反而会有戒断反应。哪怕这个新的平衡其实是在伤害你的，但戒断反应带来的痛苦可能已经超过熟悉的abuse带来的痛苦了。

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#在读什么

#ReligiousTrauma #exmo #exmormon #trauma #PTSD #TheBodyKeepstheScore

https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/the-god-they-praised-the-monster-i-survived

Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.

- Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

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The Body Keeps the Score Is Bullshit

https://josepheverettwil.substack.com/p/the-body-keeps-the-score-is-bullshit

#HackerNews #TheBodyKeepsTheScore #IsBullshit #MentalHealth #Critique #Substack #Discussion #Psychology

Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.

- Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

#TheBodyKeepsTheScore #BesselVanDerKolk #MentalHealth #safety #connection #psychology #books