I suspect quite a few men see examples of #mansplaining and assume "I would never do that, I'm not an arse", but this afternoon I nearly explained user agent strings to [checks notes] a widely respected expert on distributed system design before I checked who I was about to reply to. I had assumed a completely wrong context.

Some recent comments from @[email protected] about the XY problem reminded me that mansplaining is what happens when you don't check what the context is before you speak. You may not mansplain because you're an arse, but you'll do it anyway if you believe you never would and so fail to build in the helpful habitual self doubt that makes you pause and say "what do I actually know about this person again?". Especially because if you're a man reading my timeline you likely belong to a society where there's a wealth of research suggesting you (and I) have been socialised to assume less competence in women.

And the theory that anyone who self identifies as a big-S "Skeptic" needs to be ignored is still undefeated.

#ReplyGuys #Men #Sexism #mansplaining

I don't know why that trip to SuperCheap Auto had to be an argument.

I went in to buy replacement rubbers for my wipers, and said to the guy that I noticed online they offered to change them for $9, so I'd like that please.

The guy called someone else over to come out and look at the car, and I mentioned that the back window rubber would also need changing but that the replacement pack has enough in it to do all 3 blades. I mentioned that I knew this because I did it last time.

He argued with me. He insisted that he'd have to order in the part to change the back wiper. He mansplained that if he just changed the rubber it would leave a gap that would scratch the window because I have the factory default wipers on the car and they're not designed to have the rubber changed.

I explained to him that I didn't have the factory wipers on the car, that I had Tridon wipers because I changed them myself 4 years ago specifically so I could just replace the rubbers instead of throwing the entire wiper away every time they needed changing. And that, as I had already explained I have previously done this myself.

He started arguing again, insisting they were the factory wipers. I had enough said I'd do it myself, and the only reason I was asking for it to be done is because I thought that it would be LESS DRAMA for them to do it.. but apparently it's actually MORE drama because you're insisting on arguing about it with me?

Then he said "no, it's fine.. I'll do it for you." as though he was doing me a favour by changing them for me, and not performing a paid service for a customer.

I said no thanks, and he kept arguing that he would do it as he followed me into the store to buy the rubbers. He then tried to sell me the wrong product, and argued with me AGAIN when I told him it was wrong until I took the product off him and started to walk over to the register. He left to go back into the office, so I went back over to the shelf and grabbed the correct product.

My guy, I've been out of the house and wearing a bra for 4 hours now. Don't fucking push me.

#Men #Sexism #mansplaining #ToxicMasculinity #gaslighting #misogyny #patriarchy #car #JustPutTheFriesInTheBag

Anonymous users are so brave! /s

😒 if only i got the same ammount of corrective comments as constructive ones it'd make sense, maybe... don't people realise they sound like: SHUT UP!!

#block #manspreading #mansplaining

Britta Haßelmann: "Sexismus betroffen seien aber alle Frauen, die Studentin im dritten Semester genauso wie die Rentnerin."

#BrosiusGersdorf #BrittaHaßelmann #Sexismus #HassUndHetze #Mansplaining #Bedrohung

https://www.t-online.de/nachrichten/deutschland/innenpolitik/id_101244180/juristin-frauke-brosius-gersdorf-es-wurde-so-unglaublich-viel-gelogen-.html

In honour of a number of people I know who identify as female bemoaning, repeatedly, men insisting on explaining (often incorrectly) stuff to them, here's A Thing. Feel free to use it.

#WellActually #Mansplaining

Ein alter, weißer Mann hat nach dem Aussteigen am Bahnhof gerade extra noch mal seine Laufrichtung geändert, um mir mitzuteilen, dass er sein Brompton ja noch nie so getragen hätte wie ich meines, und um mir zu demonstrieren, wie es besser geht.
(Meins war zusammen geklappt, seins nicht)

Habe dafür meine Kopfis abgenommen und nen Ohrstöpsel raus gemacht, weil ich dachte, vielleicht hätte ich was verloren oder so.

Mann, just - don't 😑

#oldwhiteman #mansplaining