For years I was a covert stutterer. I spent so much energy chasing fluency that it became part of how I imagined myself.
Lately I've been wondering whether there's grief there.
Not grief for "normality"... I have little interest in normality. But grief for the fluent self I was taught to desire, the future I thought fluency would unlock, the years spent hiding.
And I feel like I should give myself permission to feel grief, without judging it.
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