@david_megginson I used to struggle until I went to a demonstration where they were using a high end hand plane. If you can, find someone near who owns a Lie Nielsen or Veritas plane and give it a try. Starting with a plane that is already setup and sharp makes a world of difference compared to starting with an old Stanley. Once you have a feel for it, you can go back and learn how to setup an older plane.
Also, try waxing the plane sole so it glides easier. Many people skip this.

@mathaetaes I have the Supermax drum sander. I’ve owned it about two years now and love it. It’s very easy to change the paper. I don’t have infeed or outfeed tables and so far haven’t needed them, but I mostly use it for small projects (like kumiko strips).