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ggainey Dec 7, 2023

For general mental-health/lack-of-spoons reasons, I'm going to largely step away from social media through the end of 2023 - and possibly beyond. I don't have a bazillion followers or anything - but I do have a few, and it just feels polite to let ppl know.

ggainey Nov 6, 2023

Bad news is when a doctor user the phrase "lifelong immune suppressants" in the context of one of your kids' health issues.

Good news is when they do *not* start talking about the realities of the liver-transplant-list.

Some days, there is not enough wine in all the world for being a parent.

ggainey Oct 27, 2023

-> [email protected]Oct 27, 2023

My dad just came into the room where I’m working and said:

“There’s a new person at work…He’s a she. I mean… She is a she… Now. We’re supposed to call her that now.”

[long pause]

“Anyway… I don’t care about this gender, pronoun, stuff. It’s not my business. All that matters is that she’s very helpful.”

[dad pauses thoughtfully]

“She’s a good colleague… Don’t understand all this fuss about people’s gender these days. She works hard and is always friendly. This media malarkey… About what’s in their pants. Don’t make sense to me.”

“These ‘journalists’ should spend a day with her and see the trans people are good and honest regular folk.”

Based dad???????????

ggainey Oct 25, 2023

Oh right - when Mr Doomspiral comes to visit, wine and "pandora station from high school era (when you still had Hope)" is maybe NOT such a great combo.

I am *such* an idjit...

ggainey Oct 21, 2023

When dealing with long-term medical crises, one learns early that it's not linear - there are good days, and there are Bad Days, and sometimes the bad ones show up out of the blue.

What I am wrestling with/meditating on, is that I have to divorce *my* good/bad days, from my loved one's good/bad days. If I don't - then I add "I have to have Good Days or my Dad will be unhappy" to the burden they already are carrying. Unacceptable.

Brains are dumb, love is hard - but always, always worth it.

ggainey Oct 20, 2023

Asheville's nightlife is *wild*, man...

(description: mama bear and four cubs wandering thru downtown Asheville at night)

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/CSmdNGrMlAU

Mama bear and four cubs roam around downtown Asheville

YouTube

ggainey Oct 7, 2023

"But Dude, it's always been this way - don't you know anything about history?"

Yes. Yes, I really do. But for the VAST majority of that history, we haven't been able to share hobbies with people 5K miles away. We haven't been able to see pictures of the beautiful places of worship of people Not Like Us. We haven't had access to the entirety of the world's knowledge IN OUR FUCKING POCKETS.

"It's always been like this" is neither excuse nor explanation - it's a fucking cop-out.

My 30-yr-old daughter is in the middle of a major life-altering health crisis. I have been dealing with doctors (both Bad and, thankfully, Amazing), insurance companies, FMLA paperwork, and...a metric buttload of other stressors.

But I have also been the recipient of so much grace, and support, and kindness, from People.

Two reminders, friendos:

1) Hug the ones you love, RIGHT NOW. Life is Uncertain.

2) When Mr Rogers said "look for the helpers" - he meant any of us, at any time.

ggainey Sep 22, 2023

Mark Wyner Won’t Comply

Sep 21, 2023

I didn’t know I needed to watch a cute, chubby field hamster running through a field in slow motion, but here we are.

Wildlife photographer Julian Rad has a nice collection of photos/videos of furry little friends in nature. They’re super cute.

https://www.instagram.com/julianradwildlife/

#Hamster #Cute #Animals #Nature #Videography #Photography #Wildlife

Age	yes
Patience	none
Pronouns	he/him