ggaineyOct 27, 2023
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My dad just came into the room where I’m working and said:

“There’s a new person at work…He’s a she. I mean… She is a she… Now. We’re supposed to call her that now.”

[long pause]

“Anyway… I don’t care about this gender, pronoun, stuff. It’s not my business. All that matters is that she’s very helpful.”

[dad pauses thoughtfully]

“She’s a good colleague… Don’t understand all this fuss about people’s gender these days. She works hard and is always friendly. This media malarkey… About what’s in their pants. Don’t make sense to me.”

“These ‘journalists’ should spend a day with her and see the trans people are good and honest regular folk.”

Based dad???????????

Oct 27, 2023 at 2:15pmWeb
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Dad don’t care about your pronouns

Dad only cares that you’re a good colleague

Show threaddavidOct 27, 2023
@yassie_j does he know you're trans? :3
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@daviddd he doesn’t, only because it would be difficult to square that with my mom (who is very uh… traditional)
Show threaddavidOct 27, 2023
@yassie_j tbh if your mom said anything seems like dad would have your back
But yea, I understand its difficult :3
Show threadeestileib (she/hers)Oct 27, 2023

@yassie_j @daviddd

I _think_ he might be dropping a hint or fifty with that little chat.

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@eestileib @daviddd My dad definitely does not do hints lol
Show threadeestileib (she/hers)Oct 27, 2023

@yassie_j @daviddd

I'm a parent with a non-binary lesbian kid myself.

The way you describe that conversation (particularly that he did it away from your other parent) just screams intentionality.

Sounds like you got a good one, and he's giving you a green light to talk _to him_ about it.

That's just my read etc.

Show threadHerr Irrtum!Oct 28, 2023
@yassie_j
That is roughly how I communicate with my son(18). I honestly don't know yet, where he is positioning himself. He thinks I'm a typical straight CIS guy – sure enough mostly right ;). However I always tell him my personal experiences eg. with trans poc, pointing out what cool artists are non CIS, or how much club music is influenced by LGBTQIA+ culture.
The reason: Not only to teach respect. Just in case he comes out as LGBTQIA+, he can do so, feeling comfortable.
@daviddd @eestileib
Show threadeestileib (she/hers)Oct 28, 2023

@Herr_Irrtum @yassie_j @daviddd

You don't actually need to capitalize 'cis'. It's a Latin prefix meaning "the same side", which is an antonym of 'trans' meaning "the other side".

So, for example, before the events of _Bello Gallico_, Rome controlled Cisalpine Gaul ("Gaul on this site of the Alps"), and Caesar made his name conquering Transalpine Gaul ("Gaul on the other side of the Alps").

Another example is cis-benzene (where both ends of the ring bend in the same direction, looks like a paper boat) and trans-benzene where the ends of the ring bend in opposite directions (looks like a deck chair halfway reclined).

So cis animals' gender lines up with the majority of their primary sex characteristics, and trans animals' gender does not.

Show threadHerr Irrtum!Oct 28, 2023

@eestileib
Thank you, oh' mighty grammar expert.
I didn't know that and will from now on follow this rule. Very insightfull information - a shame my Latin knowledge is almost non existent...

@yassie_j @daviddd

Show threadunreal mira  Oct 27, 2023
@[email protected] wholesome
Show threadAria HollowsOct 27, 2023
@yassie_j the rare but ever present based dad
Show threadLegally ZoéOct 27, 2023

@yassie_j Ma reaction at each paragraph:

😬
🫤
😮‍💨 <- that's supposed to be relief. Need better emoji

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@hotkey heheh
Show threadMagicLike 🏳️‍🌈Oct 27, 2023
@hotkey @yassie_j this 
Show threadHiro  Oct 28, 2023
@hotkey @[email protected] me this.

Cringing at first and then relief at the end 😊
Show threadMiaOct 27, 2023
@[email protected] Chad dad ​​
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@miaapancake 
Show threadsiderealOct 27, 2023
@yassie_j Reminds me of this old carpenter I used to work with. Somehow one day on the job we started talking about trans people and I thought he was about to say something SUPER transphobic. But instead he got quiet for a second and then laughed, "But, it's the 21st century, you can be whoever you wanna be" and that was that. Better attitude than many people my age!
Show threadスゴイ「sugoi」Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j i teared up a little because i selfishly wish my family was a little more like this
Show threadfenchelmitOct 27, 2023
@[email protected] the future the woke left wants really is just supportive dads
Show threadSylttiOct 27, 2023
@yassie_j Your dad is beyond based. Beyond Giga Chad. I don't know what that is, but that's what he is.
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@Syltti 💖💖💖
Show threadDeterioratedStuccoOct 27, 2023

@yassie_j
It's never been the people with prejudice who are the core problem.
It's the ones who embrace their prejudice.

It's a hard thing to do, to change the habits of a lifetime. Kudos to him.

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@yassie_j God I'm jelous.
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@szczur 
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@[email protected] @[email protected] cuxdles!
Show threadSparky-Luna Oct 27, 2023
@[email protected] your dad is beyond based. You're so lucky. Imma use this as evidence in my theories
Show threadUnprecedented 2023Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j 👍🏽
Show threadPlay Ball and Fight FascistsOct 27, 2023

@yassie_j
“Anyway… I don’t care about this gender, pronoun, stuff."

But still cared enough to get her pronouns right.

Show threadLawler Hix Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j wholesome as fuck tbh.
Show threadMair Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j horseshoe theory of gender politics
Show threadMair Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j we shouldn't have to give a shit (bigoted) >>>> performative and conditional acceptance >>>> we shouldn't have to give a shit (ally)
Show threadMagicLike 🏳️‍🌈Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j @yassie_j based as fuck 
Show threadGundam Boykisser Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j man just wants to grill
Show threadagatha  Oct 27, 2023
@yassie_j started worrisome but turned out wholesome!
Show threadtheoOct 28, 2023
@yassie_j @astrid legitimately i think almost every non-queer person would be like this if it weren’t for right-wing media poisoning
Show threadMitsunee | 光音Oct 28, 2023
@yassie_j I wish there were more people with this "I don't really care, can I just call people by what they want to be called and not think about it further" opinion. Like that's the best thing after actual supportive ally and imo a healthy default for everyone.
Show thread2¢Oct 28, 2023
@yassie_j he always was. You knew that, no?