@cR0w people are fighting, dying and fleeing countries to have the pronouns they want. it can be a joke for you (hypothetical you), but you don't get to say it's a joke for others.

to me it's like off-color or dark humor. some people really like telling dark jokes but when someone speaks up and says they have experience with the terrible subject of the joke and joking about it hurt them, saying "it's just a joke" is an asshole thing to say. the only thing you should say is "I'm so sorry I hurt you".

if you make light of a serious subject, don't be surprised when people react negatively. am i gonna try to stop dark jokes or joke pronouns? no, but i do think about why that person thinks it's fair game for jokes. most of the time, it's because they haven't thought seriously enough about how other people feel.

@cR0w Since we were the ones subtooted, it's worth clarifying: it is impossible to get every moderation decision right, and avenues for appeal are absolutely available. If we make a mistake, we'll own it. Always.

However, on balance, this signal tends to demonstrate the seriousness with which you approach the issue and our community. If leaning on the side of safety means an occasional false positive, that's a price worth paying.