My primary motivations in moving between social media sites have been to gain more privacy, avoid ads, interact with the people I want to interact with, and sure if I can avoid giving data or money to billionaires that's a win.
But I think the shift from Twitter to here really highlighted to me how performative and divorced from reality social media really is. I enjoy wearing diapers and feeling little, and I want to talk to others that feel similarly and have a good time with them. I'm happy to be an open ear for others to vent when I have the spoons to handle it. I guess I want to be part of a community that builds people up, and especially helps them love and accept a side of themselves that they can't express in other places. I don't want to see amplified negativity from the rest of the world and from others in our own community tearing each other down. That was not 100 percent of my experience with Twitter but definitely enough to be off-putting.
A thing I've been thinking about a lot, though: when many of those most eager to dogpile and cancel in our community were faced with a decision between moving to small sites like Mastodon or Co-host to build a community in case the Musky Husky ran Twitter into the ground, or stay on Twitter, they chose the convenient option. Their morality does not extend far beyond their convenient action. I don't really blame them for that as I'm not any better. We're all beaten down by this world and only have so much energy to put up a fight. We have to pick our battles.
But it does highlight how awful social media is as a source of morality, especially when it's driven by an algorithm that amplifies sensational posts. It's very convenient to crucify people in the court of public opinion (both people who deserve it and don't), but next to impossible to enact any meaningful change in the real world because that's inconvenient. All the while it erodes every user's mental health.
I truly don't feel that way here. Without an algorithm to foist negativity on me constantly it feels like I'm getting an unvarnished look at what y'all really believe. We feel more like a community here and I feel like I know you all more deeply, even if I only read your posts and don't often reply to them. Of course that's also due to the relatively small number of users here and the longer form posts..
May have gotten a bit ramble-y but just some thoughts I've had related to posts I've seen this morning.