Anyone else always feel like people are still older than yourself even on old pictures?
https://lemmy.world/post/41265461
Anyone else always feel like people are still older than yourself even on old pictures? - Lemmy.World
Just wondering if this is just me or what this could be… I am 5 years younger
than my brother and his friends, but when I was like 20 (they were 23-25) we
still partied together etc. but it was always this thing me and my friends were
always the “kids”. Which actually makes sense. My brother showed me pictures of
all of us on christmas and even if I look at the pictures now (I am 34 now) if I
were to be able to travel to that moment at my current age in that picture I’d
still feel like they are more “adult” than me. Not even more adult in sense of
responsible, but on the pictures they are all so big, beards,… I think I’d still
have difficult time connecting with them properly even though I’d be older in my
unrealistic scenario of porting me into that picture at my age. Anyone else
experience something simular? This isn’t actually something I am making up. I
went to Thailand last year (33 years old) and went into a hostel that I stayed
back in 2016, so almost 10 years ago. I swear all the 22 year olds were the cool
dudes and I felt out of place again, just like back then. I wasnt into partying
like that but just by the look of some dudes it’s insane. I thought someone was
about my age, turned out he just turned 20. Im not unmuscular but not too
muscular either, I climb regulary so just an average dude. People even thought
I’m 20 omg.
I think I can't attend to my friends birthday every year
https://lemmy.world/post/41156676
I think I can't attend to my friends birthday every year - Lemmy.World
A good friend of mine moved away 10 years ago. Where I am from it’s only a 3
hour drive cause we never meet at his place but some neutral location between
where he lives and where “we” live. With “we” I am refering to my friend group
and his friend group but we didn’t move away. Nothing wrong actually so far,
just a few things have changed drastically. We are all now 30 years old, he
still invites us every year and it’s always the same. He is a cool person, but
he has absolutely 0 hobbies. And since I am into gym since 3 years it’s the
hardest time for me cause we always end up in the middle of NOWHERE and the only
thing to do is get drunk and try to get those 3 days over with. He doesn’t drink
and I am also limiting it. But we have absolutely NOTHING to do and everything I
suggest gets rejected cause my and his current friend group are “drinkers”, they
can just drink the whole weekend and call it a weekend. In 6 weeks we are
driving to this location for 3 days (2 nights) and I already know just by
looking at google maps it’s gonna get boring if I don’t drink. The closest gym
is 60 minutes away, and why would I go to the gym if Im with my friends? They
don’t like climbing, so bouldering is not a thing. They hate spas, so going to
swim is also not gonna happen. I think Im the only one who can snowboard but
honestly I dont want to go snowboarding cause I have a flight end of february to
thailand and dont want to risk breaking something. I feel bad becaus he is a
nice dude but we have absolutely nothing in common anymore. And our friendgroup
is still just drinking alcohol which I am trying to avoid since a few years. The
last time we went shopping for grocery for about 4 hours (wtf…) and never left
the house those 3 days and just got drunk and cooked all day. It was super
awkward. Especially for me, since I am not a huge fan of groups and I always
have to “use the bathroom” to get some space. The worst thing for me is having
no space, since its shared rooms and the only way to escape is to either take a
sh.it [http://sh.it] or shower which I obviously cant do all day. Dunno what to
do. Last year I dodged it by really being sick and the year before I was in Sri
Lanka. They are actually all nice people, but I just thinking of playing Uno,
Monopoly, drinking, cooking, or walking through the middle of nowhere with a
beer in my hand makes me want to cry.
What could the final song be in Stranger Things?
https://lemmy.world/post/40893640
What could the final song be in Stranger Things? - Lemmy.World
I have a few ideas. I might go with anything from Prince (Purple Rain) Led
Zepplin (Stairway to heave). Millie is Bon Jovis daughter in law, so “Prayer”
could fit too. But they said they got the song with Kate Bushs help… maybe Peter
Gabriel? Or Pink Floyd? Or Eddie is coming back to save them with Iron Maiden -
Troopers or Run to the Hills lol. Or just a time jump to 1999 and playing Prince
- 1999 Any guesses til the final episode?
How can I figure out if I need kcal surplus or deficit ?
https://lemmy.world/post/40540888
TIFU big time by not knowing what I wanted
https://lemmy.world/post/39945010
TIFU big time by not knowing what I wanted - Lemmy.World
Ye TIFU big time, not only today but the next years to come. I always thought I
wanted kids, but after we married I started realising I don’t want kids. I like
the freedom I have, playing video games, going to gym, travel,… all with only my
wife. My TIFU: I realised way too late after marrying and building a house that
wanting kids will never be what I want. I always listened to people: “That will
change, believe me”; “When your older you will!” The thought of a kid might be
good sometimes, but the more I think of it the worse it gets. I had to talk with
my wife and she started crying, understandable. We are now in our house, I still
love her and she still loves me but the kids problem is a huge problem cause she
only wants kids with me. She is now 33, already “old” for kids. I think I
destroyed everything. I can’t change somehow that I don’t want kids, I was
hoping that my thoughts of “Yeah maybe in future, would be cool” would turn into
something I’d do anything for. But it’s just not happening and I feel like I
lived a lie to her, giving her wrong hopes and we married, built house,… It’s
nothing I couldn’t solve though, I just feel bad for her and I feel like I
should just give her a kid before her chance vanishes. I don’t think she will
find a new man in a while to get kids right away. She is already 33.
Im trying out a new "routine" I just made and seems like it's fine so far (recoverywise) but can you guys give me your opinion and thoughts?
https://lemmy.world/post/39059512
Im trying out a new "routine" I just made and seems like it's fine so far (recoverywise) but can you guys give me your opinion and thoughts? - Lemmy.World
Hey I am in the gym since 10 months but I felt like I wasn’t going anywhere. The
gym routine I am now doing since 4 weeks is basically a Push Pull Legs but I
only do PPLPP Rest Rest. At the end of my push workout on monday I do Squats
with light weight and at the end of my pull day I add RDLs with light weight.
“+” behind Sets always means the last set is an AMRAP Set. Monday Push A: 5x5+
Incline Barbell Bench Press 3x8(-12) Standing Barbell Shoulder Press 3x8(-12) EZ
Bar Skullcrushers 3x10+ Machine Chest Flies 3x10+ Pushdowns 3x10+ Cable Lateral
Raises 3x10 Barbell Squats Tuesday Pull A: 5x5+ Weighted Pull Ups (currently 5
kg added) 3x8(-12) T Bar Rows Chest supported 3x8(-12) EZ Bar Curls 3x10+
Reverse Machine Flies 3x10+ Rope Hammer Curls 2x15+ Cable Face Pulls Wednesday:
5x5+ Barbell Squats 5x3+ Deadlifts 3x8(-12) Leg Press 3x10+ Calf Raises
Smithmachine 3x10+ Leg Curls 3x10+ Leg Extensions Thursday: 5x5+ Seated Barbell
Shoulder Press 3x8(-12) Incline Dumbbell Bench Press 3x8(-12) Pushdowns 3x10+
Machine Chest Flies 3x10+ EZ Bar Skullcrushers 3x10+ Cable Lateral Raises
Friday: 5x5+ T Bar Rows Chest supported 3x8(-12) Regular Pull Ups 3x8(-12) Rope
Hammer Curls 3x10+ Reverse Machine Flies 3x10+ EZ Bar Curls 2x15+ Cable Face
Pulls 3x10 RDLs Thats basically all I do… is this too much after 10 months
consistant training without a program? I am natural, I try to eat a lot but
hardly make it to 2700 kcal a day. My protein requirement is always met…
TIL that hobby dogging is now officially a thing
https://lemmy.world/post/38961352
TIL that hobby dogging is now officially a thing - Lemmy.World
So today I learned that in my country people have a lot of hobby dogging
courses. You basically bring your imaginary dog to a real dog trainer and train
your imaginary dog with other owners of imaginary dogs.
I feel bad for having a job that requires nothing from me and I don't tell anyone
https://lemmy.world/post/38530248
I feel bad for having a job that requires nothing from me and I don't tell anyone - Lemmy.World
Hey. I am working nightshift since a few years and the place I work at has
absolutely nothing to do for me at night. I also work alone. I haven’t even told
my wife, friends or anyone this yet and I plan not to do so, cause it might be
used against me if for any reason I lose friendship or if my wife breaks up with
me for any reason in the future. I do 1 hour of work. I prepare medication for
the next day and clean the storage place for medication. After that I do
nothing. I even bought a laptop where I use my hotspot (mobile) to play video
games from 10 - 5. I only play games if I can’t sleep. I am not allowed to
sleep, but I did it a few times already and no one noticed. My wife leaves for
work when I get home, so I have breakfast with her and then I “lay down in bed”
but when she is gone I get back up and go to the gym. I don’t want her to know I
am awake every morning. I clean the house while she is at work, I go to gym,
etc. and when she is home we do something together and she always says: “you
don’t have to clean after your nightshift, you need rest.” Well I don’t. I rest
enough… I feel bad. Doing this since 4 years and don’t know if I should tell
anyone, but I figure I ask here first what your opinions on this is. Is this
somehow cheating? I feel like a cheater for not atleast telling this my wife,
but imagine if we break up horrible for whatever reason in 10 years and she runs
to my work place? She knows I don’t have to do too much so I just tell her I
only need 4-5 hours sleep after my shift and that it’s enough for me. Edit: I
even have a different account on discord where I play with my “american friends”
who are online while I am online at night. I don’t want my friends to know,
cause 1 of my friends is a friend of a coworker of mine who works dayshift. He
shouldn’t know about this. So basically I have a kind of double life. The life
and friends in day time and the friends I see if I can’t sleep during my
nightshift that I play with. My american friends know about this, but they have
no idea where I live in europe. I told them england, cause it’s the only country
I can fake the language properly without accent cause I grew up in america. I am
probably putting too much energy in this but since a few years it’s fine. I
sometimes think I atleast should tell this my wife. I also can’t quit this job.
It’s really good paying (nightshift bonus) + I can do what I want. I love it…
Am I doing something fundamentally wrong in my workouts?
https://lemmy.world/post/36667140
Am I doing something fundamentally wrong in my workouts? - Lemmy.World
Hey I am kind of feeling sad right now. I started working out in December 2024
and since then I am consistantly in the gym. I started off with Full Body for a
month but got bored and did a Upper Lower Split for maybe 6 weeks and then I
swapped to PPL. I ran PPL 6x a week. My workout I could just say was (imo) on
the lower end (Push had 2 Chest, 1 Shoulder, 1 Triceps // Pull had 1 Vertical 1
Horizontal 1 Shoulder (Face Pulls basically) and 1 Bicep exercise and Legs I did
Barbell Squats, Leg Curls, Extensions, Calf Raises and 1 Ab Exercise) I am still
SKINNY. I mean not skinny my chest and belly are still fat and my arms and legs
skinny. What I changed in diet: Increased Protein intake from never ever
tracking in my life to 2.2 g per kg bodyweight. I cut out most crap but still it
bad stuff cause I need kcal to gain muscle. I try to eat healthy 3000 kcal a day
but its hard but I always have my 2.2g of protein a day in me. The lowest I
tracked was 4 months ago 1.55 gramm protein. The highest I had was a month ago
with 2.9g of protein per kg bodyweight. I started at 83.9 kg, droped to 76.5 kg
(kcal reduced to 2100-2300) and now I am back to 80 kg after I increased kcal a
month and half ago to 3000 kcal. I am still benching only 22.5 kg (8 reps)
dumbbells. I started at 15 kg which is already nothing (male, 32 years old) now.
I started Lat Pulldowns at about 30 kg now I am at 73 kg (6 reps) What am I
doing wrong? How can a body (again I am a 32 year old male) only bench 60 kg
(Barbell Flatbench Press) for 3 Reps?? Its depressing. People start off at 60
kg. I worked my way to 60 kg and thats considered beginner lift. And I cant even
do 4 reps lol. My genetics are so bad I honestly dont know what to do at this
point. Maybe PPLPPL is too much and I am not recovering properly? But its only 4
exercises day. And I dont even feel tired after training - despite not even
being able to lift another rep. People say you should feel exhausted after
training. I think if Id go back to the gym I can do another 9 reps of my last
weight. But I cant do more than 9 reps of something if my energy is gone. Today
I did Cable Hammer Curls (38 kg…) 11 Reps, then 8 in my second set and in my
third set I made 6 reps. It wasnt possible to get 7. I squeezed so hard to try
to get the 7 but it wasnt possible. I took a shower, came back to the cable
machine and did 9 reps of hammer curls with 38 kg. So I didnt train to failure
earlier? I just want to look decent and not skinny anymore. I need help…
Is anyone else actually worried about A.I (AGI, Super Intelligence,..)?
https://lemmy.world/post/35484858
Is anyone else actually worried about A.I (AGI, Super Intelligence,..)? - Lemmy.World
As much as I like AI but the last years are kind of a lot, sometimes just too
much for me. I can’t even watch youtube without getting a video translated into
my language which is quite annoying. The first search on google has an AI
telling me the stuff I need to know, don’t even have to look at real human
threads at this point. Not even going to deep on the AI generated videos, news
etc. because that is insane already and we aren’t even peaking. I am 40 years
old. Imagine studying a few years on a 200.000 €/$ or whatever currency degree
just to find out that the job won’t even exist by 2028. Imagine finding out that
you won’t be able to pay off your debt cause most fastfood restaurants will use
AI/ Bots that can serve, prepare, clean etc. 24/7 while a useless human needs
breaks, wants money and needs days off and can only work 8 hour shifts. I know
this sounds crazy but I really think by 2030 we will have 80% jobs replaced by
AI and the new jobs that might evolve out of jobs that have vanished will only
be doable for AGI/ Super Intelligence. Think about it… while in the 1800s
machines have replaced or made jobs easier, they still required humans manpower
to produce them, to maintaine them and to even use them. Now we are basically
replacing what made humans - human - our brains. As we know the human brain has
never ever been replaced by something and that is the organ that put us where we
are in the food chain. And we are creating something that is BETTER, FASTER,
MORE EFFICIENT than our a brain. It could all be cool and nice and fun and games
if we wouldn’t be replacing humans in a very short time frame til 2030. It could
all be cool,… if not every country would be competing in this race to super
intelligence. Looking at this neutral and seeing what is happing, imo I might be
doomed in 5 years. I really think I will be fck.d up in 5 years. A job is
annoying, but it’s also a humans purpose. A way to express itself and be useful
to society. If this is being taken away we will find 95% of humanity in a huge
depression and suicide rates are going to rise by 2030. Edit: We can’t even
imagine and visualise what super intelligence will do and can do. Before we even
understand what this AI just created and offered us the next best thing is
already produced. We are basically getting smarter with every new upgrade AI
will give us, but get dumber in the process cause we can’t even PROCESS the new
stuff. Bland example: currently phones are getting upgrades 1-2 years and we can
read whats new and see the new things. Imagine those phones being produced every
week with new and better and more useful upgrades. We’d buy the phone,
understand the phone and after a week the next phone with 5 new features is on
the markert and we are outdated. We can’t process the new upgrades etc. in such
a short time frame. We aren’t capable of that. This leads us to getting dumber
with every new upgrade. Imagine AI creating a Boeing and after a year we
understand how to use it. But during that year it already released a Boeing that
can fly at the speed of flight. It can’t be used cause humans cant use it and
would die at those speeds. But AI could. AI will be producing so much trash
knowledge lol.
