Jonathan Gerlach
icanchangethisnamelater 
I need this so badly,,,,,, 
I need this so badly, I'm fucking pinning this post
Doing this regularly would actually fix me
Null@icantchangethisname I had this exact scenario - people who just wanted to “hang and not interrupt” while we played.
Problem is; no matter how good your intentions, listening to people for 4 hours when you’re very-low level involved stretches most people attention spans. They’d drop in and out of conversations in distracting ways, and they’d invariably start distracting people at the table to pull them towards doing something they wanted to do (the classic was trying to share YouTube videos). This became enough of a known problem that we talked it out and agreed from then on that anyone who was not playing was banned from the game room on game night, barring odd spouse/kid needs.
It just doesn’t seem to work for most people, and the reason is pretty simple. When your friend group is engaged in a nearby activity that you are not, It’s instinctual to feel alienated by the (even consensual) exclusion, and thus the unconscious attempts to redirect activity.
Maybe some other format works, but I’m pretty convinced this is a bad idea for most D&D/games. YMMV.
Problem is; no matter how good your intentions, listening to people for 4 hours when you’re very-low level involved stretches most people attention spans. They’d drop in and out of conversations in distracting ways, and they’d invariably start distracting people at the table to pull them towards doing something they wanted to do (the classic was trying to share YouTube videos). This became enough of a known problem that we talked it out and agreed from then on that anyone who was not playing was banned from the game room on game night, barring odd spouse/kid needs.
It just doesn’t seem to work for most people, and the reason is pretty simple. When your friend group is engaged in a nearby activity that you are not, It’s instinctual to feel alienated by the (even consensual) exclusion, and thus the unconscious attempts to redirect activity.
Maybe some other format works, but I’m pretty convinced this is a bad idea for most D&D/games. YMMV.
~> epm:install zora@icantchangethisname this is really comfy, 10/10
when i done this, i also have a system of low-effort noises my friends can understand, so i can sometimes comment on the conversation without putting all my energy into speaking 
would recommend doing the same, if talking is spoon-expensive for you too
when i done this, i also have a system of low-effort noises my friends can understand, so i can sometimes comment on the conversation without putting all my energy into speaking
would recommend doing the same, if talking is spoon-expensive for you too @dispencer omigosh, that sounds so amazing 
@icantchangethisname my species sometimes communications by clicks, especially in my home country, so it was easy for me to start
i taught more common click patterns to my human frens, so i can communicate when tired/nonverbal
for example, if the scientists asked me how i was feeling, could click 5 times to tell "5/10, just feeling ok but not dying"
also, clicks go through blankets really well. pattern is understandable even if wanting to bury my head in cozy world
i taught more common click patterns to my human frens, so i can communicate when tired/nonverbal
for example, if the scientists asked me how i was feeling, could click 5 times to tell "5/10, just feeling ok but not dying"
also, clicks go through blankets really well. pattern is understandable even if wanting to bury my head in cozy world
--verbose@icantchangethisname I've been in a similar social situation recently! Organised a small (?) party (more of a "we sit doen together for a few rounds of beer and just vibe") at my place eith 10 attendants in total.
It went well into the night; we stopped around 4AM. At some point I just lied down on my bed the next door over, kept the door open, and just stayed there for around 1.5 hours, just calmly listening to conversations, chiming in occasionally ("that thing's over there" comments usually) and just enjoying the vibe. The others were enjoying the party, and I was enjoying just lying there, listening to them having fun.
A very nice experience to have, indeed. Can only recommend.
Lilith Ashley Nyx Arson 
@icantchangethisname this would be awesome if I had irls
__Miguel_@icantchangethisname This has just surfaced on my TL, and I would just like to say that I'd appreciate if any and all human interaction with other people (minus the bf) could be like this...
Thibaultmol 🌈@icantchangethisname I often join a vc to just have something going on, even if I'm not talking not even have my mic connceted
Ann Annas"Would you like to go to bed with me?" but it's a completely platonic gathering of friends hanging out near me while I'm in bed
Silver@icantchangethisname sometimes I'll just vibe with my pc plugged into the tv while my friends bed rot in a pile of blankets on the sofa bed 😊
Michael J. Gratton@icantchangethisname This is actually why royals used to receive visitors in their bedrooms, so they could just stay in bed and be like "this is how I'm doing diplomacy now what of it?"
We Must Dissent@icantchangethisname
I am as asocial as one can get without crossing into schizoid territory and have generally loved hanging in our guild room. I can just work on me thing and chime in if something interesting is happening.
I am as asocial as one can get without crossing into schizoid territory and have generally loved hanging in our guild room. I can just work on me thing and chime in if something interesting is happening.
bartholin (surviving global warming arc)