pride month is coming up soon, so i want to make something very clear, especially for the younger queers and others who might not know the history.

in nearly all of america in the 50s-60s, being gay was considered both a mental illness and a crime punishable by prison time (up to and including a life sentence) and/or "experimental" psychiatric torture (electroshock therapy, lobotomies, and worse). you could lose your job for being suspected of homosexual behavior with no proof, and the fbi and post office spied on you if they knew you were queer. most gay bars were mafia-owned because no one else had the money or inclination to pay off the crooked police.

with that in mind: "stonewall," the event that we commemorate with pride parades today, was a violent riot incited by a police raid on a gay bar in manhattan. the fierce activism that has given us the basic personhood we enjoy today was built on a foundation of desperate physical struggle against unfair policing and stigma, the stakes of which were prison, death, or worse. gays, lesbians, trans folks and drag queens, dancers, kinksters, drinkers and teetotalers, all of them stuck together because nobody else had their backs. we can march peacefully today only because we had to fight for our lives before.

my point is this: there was no room in those days for means-testing who was a Real Respectable Gay, and there's no room for it now either, especially as our rights are eroding again. we have to stick together with people we think are gross but who haven't actually hurt anybody, because the same weapons you use to oust those you don't like will be turned on you in a heartbeat.

now more than ever, don't be a fucking cop.

i also posted this on bsky, for the interested
kassy, #1 rosa from dungeon gals fan (@bsky.typh.zone)

i wrote a long post on my fediverse account and i would like to share it here too. it's about the history of pride month. it's more relevant today than you might think! i know it's long and kind of heavy but i would like you to read it if you're able.

Bluesky Social
oh hey, i started getting hateful bullshit in reply to this post here before on bluesky. that's fun
@typhlosion ugh
sorry you have to deal with that
-F
addendum: i originally used the word "transvestites" because i wanted to preserve some of the historical texture of what it was like to be queer at the time, since that's what the post is about. but it's not a good term, as some people brought up, and wasn't worth keeping. i edited the post to change it. i'm sorry
im gonna mute this now. dont be assholes about this post please. ok

@typhlosion "my point is this: there was no room in those days for means-testing who was a Real Respectable Gay,"

But it's not like that stopped them trying. Plenty of "respectable" white cis queers didn't want to be grouped with the rest of us at the time

@Dangerous_beans it's true, there were elements like that then just as there are now, and then just as now, they helped slow everything down a lot. i couldn't fit an entire historical context of the stonewall riots into my post
@typhlosion yeah. it's frustrating that we've been fighting against those dickheads for longer than I've been alive
@Dangerous_beans @typhlosion Like someone using the term "transvestite"?
@janethemotherfucker @Dangerous_beans that's not the right term to use when discussing gender as we in the modern day conceive of it, but it's a term that was used both in and out of queer communities at the time of stonewall (the late 1960s), which is the context in which i used it. someone who identified that way at the time might consider themself trans today, or they might just call themself a drag queen or a crossdresser, or something else entirely; it's not something you can easily replace with modern parlance when discussing queer history
@typhlosion @Dangerous_beans if it were me discussing it, I'd replace that word with all the missing terms it replaced. Trans people did exist as trans people back then. Christine Jorgensen existed.
@janethemotherfucker @Dangerous_beans that's true and fair and i'll admit my misstep there. i'm sorry.
@typhlosion @Dangerous_beans  ❤️  🏳️‍⚧️ 
@janethemotherfucker @Dangerous_beans i remembered i could edit the post so i changed it. i guess originally i picked the word out of a desire to preserve some of the historical texture of what it was like to be queer at that time, since that's what the post is about, but its not really important enough to keep
@typhlosion This is the reason why I largely don't agree with CSD and similar parades anymore. Over the years, what had always been a political demonstration in our fight for acceptance and integration, has turned into a grotesque public fetish party that I think destroys a lot of the message and goodwill that we've reached with the public in the last century ("we are people like you and want to live our lives unimpeded").
@WooShell do elaborate. because this sounds a bit like the "let them do what they want but don't bother me with all of that" that conservatives always utter when they actually mean "dOn'T iNfEcT mY cHiLd WiTh GaY tHoUgHtS!!!".
if you're concerned about kink, kink is another fundamental way of self expression and that includes puppy hoods, latex suits and whatever else you sometimes see at CSDs.
@CIMB4 I am gay and have taken part in CSD and other LGBT-related demonstrations since the 90s, when they still were actual political demonstrations.
A lot of the kinks on broad display at recent CSD parades, and the excessive ways they are presented, are causing confusion or disgust in the observing public, which is undermining our political goal of "let us live in peace" and presents "us" as the weird perverts we were prosecuted as decades ago.

@WooShell oh no! not the straights thinking we're strange and weird and perverted!!

that is *litterally* the whole point of CSD pride marches. it isn't "let's all change so the straights think we're actually reasonable". it never was "let's throw that one niche group under the bus so they don't taint our image". it was always about "we know you find the thing we're doing gross but guess what. we're a lot of people who all do it.

remember how anal sex was seen gross?