This feature in Victoria University of Wellington's student magazine (Salient) is so good.
"Disability is not just something you experience. It’s something you are expected to perform correctly."
https://www.salient.org.nz/post/the-perfect-cripple-a-user-guide-to-being-palatable
The Perfect Cripple: A User Guide to Being Palatable
Pluto RennieThere is a correct way to be disabled. No one tells you outright. There’s no handbook, no neat list of expectations. But people recognize it instinctively—and, more importantly, they recognize when you fall short. Consistency helps. You should look the same every day. Your body should tell a clear, continuous story. Fluctuation confuses people. It invites interpretation, and interpretation invites suspicion. Last year, a friend of a friend—someone I’ve never actually spoken to—starte