For people out there who are starting on the "am I autistic" journey, and are feeling the bite of imposter syndrome. Does it help to replace "autistic" with "a person who is allowed to say what their needs are, and claim those needs without having to apologize" ?

You're allowed to do that even if you're not autistic. That doesn't mean it doesn't matter whether or not you're autistic. It does! You need accurate information about yourself. Don't stop that search.

But you're allowed to claim your needs whether or not you are autistic.

You get to decide what your needs are, and who you are. Even if you are not autistic. Even if it's "just" anxiety and depression, that doesn't make you broken or wrong, too sensitive, or too much.

There is nothing shameful about being the way you are, whatever your neuro-status. You are allowed to take up space, and have inconvenient needs, and decide for yourself who you are.

#ActuallyAutistic

@Zumbador
Codified a bit more in the peer developed resource I copied from here:
https://aus.social/@noodle/112640386244869951
noodle (@[email protected])

Probably a good time to chuck up these affirmations taken from Sonnny Jane Wise's ND DBT workbook. #autisticpride > My interests are valid, and I am allowed to be excited and passionate about them even if other people aren't. > People disagreeing with me does not mean my lived experience or my opinion are invalid. > I am allowed to ask for reassurance and I am worthy of people's time and attention. > I am allowed to ask questions and require certainty in order to feel safety and control. > Some people won't like me no matter what and that is not a reflection of how likeable I am. > I decide what thoughts to reject and let pass.

Aus.Social
@noodle yes I like these!