There is this missconception (for me at least) that a joke must be accepted by all stakeholders.

I think it can be funny to some and offensive to others. Still a joke.

There are some lines I personally don’t cross but mostly i don’t take any prisoners.

I don’t think that’s a common misconception. Many will say the joke isn’t funny if it offends them, and many will say something fails to be a joke if it’s not structured as one, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone claim it ceased to be a joke because it was offensive.