Having a serious dilemma here.
My dad is a hard core, conservative, maga, racist, homophobic, corporate, old-school oil company man. He was also an absent father, and at one point all three of my aunts, and my grandparents, cornered him to tell him he'd been a bad father all of my life.
We've tried to maintain some sort of relationship, but with all the fascishittery going on lately, I have no motivation to or desire to even acknowledge his existence.
Here's the kicker:
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He's got Alzheimer's and is currently going down hill really fast. I'm being told that if I still want to talk to him, now is the time.
He's made several attempts to call over the last few months, and I've ignored them.
I have nothing to say to him that hasn't already been said, but the compassionate part of me thinks I should at least call him and ask him how his day is going.
I have some time today... I just don't want to.
Goddammit.
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@deadtom I don't know if you would like input. Please ignore if not, or let me know and I will delete.
I would call him. I would not ask how his day is going, I would instead wait for him to say what he may have wanted to say when he tried to call you. That way you at least don't carry the thought about unfinished business with you when the time comes that communication becomes impossible.
What he will or will not say would then determine the next steps.
DeadTOm 
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