Dating apps are rough. Decided to give Tinder one more go. It's enshittified heaps since the last round.
That aside, in some of the photos the 1000 yard stare of a mistreated human being stands out like a dog in a cattery. I can just about see the reflection of the people who hurt them in their eyes. It's heartbreaking.
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I like Bumble's model better than Tinder's. It makes way more sense for hetro dating to normalise the woman choosing from her matches and sending the first message, rather than drowning in a flood of naff texts and dic pics from potential suitors. Also men don't have our confidence eroded by a flood of implicit rejections, so it's better for us too. *Especially* those of us with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.
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A week ago I said I was back on Tinder. So far, as usual, it's been a grim and completely unproductive waste of life.
Now I learn - thanks to @thenewoil and others who've shared the link here - instead of letting people pick photos for their dating profiles, Tinder are going to force them to let a Trained #MOLE DataFarm their personal photo collections and do it for them;
https://www.404media.co/tinder-plans-to-let-ai-scan-your-camera-roll/
So back to Bumble ...
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I tried to login to Bumble at the time, but oh that's right, on mobile they force us to use their proprietary app. So I shelved that, and today I logged in using the web app ... which they tell me they're discontinuing soon. So the only way to use Bumble will be with the mobile app. FFS.
It really is time to build a federated dating network ...
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> We have a FOSS dating site ... That may implement ActivityPub
I'm aware : ) Got involved in a discussion about that;
https://socialhub.activitypub.rocks/t/thoughts-on-activitypub-dating-apps/
... but not sure if there's been any progress on this. Also, see the subsequent posts about putting women in charge of designing the UX and T&S systems.
Hey folks! I’ve been working on RetroMeet for the last few months and while the first version is not yet out of the window I was thinking about federation. RetroMeet is a dating app and the dev of Alovoa also expressed the interest in implementing AP. I had read the AP spec a long time ago and did another read today and I have some thoughts and mostly some questions. Mostly if AP is really the thing for it. This is a mix-and-match of my ideas, sorry if it’s confusing! Interop between Retro...
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