Lesley Carhart 6d ago

I'm still often kinda stunned by the people in this market and this world who say they urgently want A) a cybersecurity job or B) to emigrate

And I directly offer to to help them by offering my calendar for the next month,
for free, no strings

And they're just like, nah, that time isn't convenient

Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago
I mean yo - you can go pay a person $500/hr for advice if you want and they'll have like a 80% chance of being a pyramid scheme or a charlatan, but they'll definitely meet at a time you want.
Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago

If you can't meet one single, totally free 30 minute online meeting in either the early morning or late evening across a whole month, and you want to get into cybersecurity in 2026, or immigrate to another country

no, you don't

Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago
There's really no like "what if they're a parent" or "what if they're short on money" here. There just isn't. I have a variety of times open every Friday - Sunday, every week. And they're open 45 days ahead.
Show threadDamonHD6d ago
@hacks4pancakes That does sound very strange...
Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago
@DamonHD Repeatedly. I mean, I have Questions at this point. People desperate to break into the field or bleeding envy I was able to move to another country and I -offer to help- them, no strings and the thought of that much work makes them stop.
Show threadNetux

@hacks4pancakes @DamonHD I forgot what the term is, but it's a normal psychological thing where not paying for it makes it feel like it's not valuable so they treat it (and you) as such. That intrinsic motivation isn't there without feeling like they are losing something.

Similar reason a bunch of us couldn't be bothered to get good grades I think.

If you want to do it from kindness, charge something if they miss a meeting maybe.

Mar 22 at 8:58amWeb
Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago
@Netux @DamonHD honestly we have so few jobs for so many people now I don't mind if some people just give up. But it's sad.
Show threadNetux5d ago
@hacks4pancakes @DamonHD I'm looking at it as respect for your time. Giving up is fine, but be honest and let you know so you aren't wasting your time waiting on them just for them not to show up.