Lesley Carhart 6d ago

I'm still often kinda stunned by the people in this market and this world who say they urgently want A) a cybersecurity job or B) to emigrate

And I directly offer to to help them by offering my calendar for the next month,
for free, no strings

And they're just like, nah, that time isn't convenient

Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago
I mean yo - you can go pay a person $500/hr for advice if you want and they'll have like a 80% chance of being a pyramid scheme or a charlatan, but they'll definitely meet at a time you want.
Show threadLesley Carhart 6d ago

If you can't meet one single, totally free 30 minute online meeting in either the early morning or late evening across a whole month, and you want to get into cybersecurity in 2026, or immigrate to another country

no, you don't

Show threadLesley Carhart 
There's really no like "what if they're a parent" or "what if they're short on money" here. There just isn't. I have a variety of times open every Friday - Sunday, every week. And they're open 45 days ahead.
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Show threadDamonHD5d ago
@hacks4pancakes That does sound very strange...
Show threadLesley Carhart 5d ago
@DamonHD Repeatedly. I mean, I have Questions at this point. People desperate to break into the field or bleeding envy I was able to move to another country and I -offer to help- them, no strings and the thought of that much work makes them stop.
Show threadDamonHD5d ago

@hacks4pancakes What do you think is actually going on?

Confused? Anxious? Executive Dysfunction? Unrealistic? Bone idle?
(I'm NOT confusing ND with idleness in my internal ontology here, but I wonder if either might be contributing...)

Show threadDarryl Shpak5d ago
@hacks4pancakes @DamonHD Foe emigration at least, I can imagine myself saying “oh I’m so jealous, I would LOVE to do that” when the truth is there are internal or external reasons why I wouldn’t/couldn’t and someone offering to help me with the logistics wouldn’t change that so I politely decline.
Show threadDamonHD5d ago
@darryl @hacks4pancakes The grown-up way to politely decline would be "I got ahead of myself: I cannot do that for other reasons much as I'd like to", not brushing it off as a diary issue!
Show threadMichael Weiss5d ago
@hacks4pancakes @DamonHD just accept that not everyone is willing to do what is necessary. GenX pretty much grew up having to figure it out. That comes with negatives, but resilience is one of the better facets.
Show threadlostdoco5d ago
@mweiss @hacks4pancakes @DamonHD xennials too - aside from the workaholic tendencies it's one of our better traits probably.
Show threadNetux5d ago

@hacks4pancakes @DamonHD I forgot what the term is, but it's a normal psychological thing where not paying for it makes it feel like it's not valuable so they treat it (and you) as such. That intrinsic motivation isn't there without feeling like they are losing something.

Similar reason a bunch of us couldn't be bothered to get good grades I think.

If you want to do it from kindness, charge something if they miss a meeting maybe.

Show threadLesley Carhart 5d ago
@Netux @DamonHD honestly we have so few jobs for so many people now I don't mind if some people just give up. But it's sad.
Show threadNetux5d ago
@hacks4pancakes @DamonHD I'm looking at it as respect for your time. Giving up is fine, but be honest and let you know so you aren't wasting your time waiting on them just for them not to show up.
Show threadWinterKnight 5d ago
@hacks4pancakes it blows me away too because the 1 session I had with you a number of years ago did help quite a bit. You (with the help of a few others later) did an excellent job with that 30 minutes!
Show threadLesley Carhart 5d ago
@winterknight1337 Super glad to hear. I've gotten to work with a lot of great people!
Show threadWinterKnight 5d ago
@hacks4pancakes yeah! Took a while to get your advice into results but it helped!
Show threadAlex Dufournet5d ago
@hacks4pancakes sounds like me desperately wanting to learn piano. Motivation stopped when I had to make a phone call to the teacher. Yet I still want to learn piano.

Gosh you mean I have to make an effort? Ugh. What next?