Here's a question I'd love an answer to. How does everyone else cope with the rage? The rage with how shitty life is under neoliberalism, how much friction there is to trying to live a good life without destroying the environment or helping sustain the billionaires who are screwing everything. How do you cope? I'm not coping, I'm just almost perpetually angry, which doesn't feel like a healthy way to life.
#neoliberalism #adulting
@RichBartlett Meanwhile, I'm just always anxious. I have 4 different ways of thinking about it, one Buddhist, One Taoist, or existentialist and one historical. I had to learn these ways of thinking during therapy.
Buddhist: The next 20 years will be controlled by capitalism and authoritarianism of some form. Turning that ship around will take years to decades. Accept that. Accept the lives that will be lost, the long term damage to the planet that it will take decades to centuries to reverse. Accept that and mourn it. But accept it only so that you don’t fear it. The uncertainty is what gives you anxiety. This is all certain, accept it and you can see how the world is 20 years from now then, if you constantly keep working. Stay crippled and the damage will be maximal with no change. /1
@RichBartlett Taoist: You cannot fight against the river. It is folly to try, and heartbreaking when you fail at it. You are one drop in an ocean of people and ideas. All you can do is make a tiny ripple. This might cause someone else to make a ripple, and another and another, until the course of the river is changed in time. Use the flow of time, don’t fight against it, nudge it, otherwise you are setting yourself up for failure, paralysis and suffering.
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@RichBartlett Historical:You must treat this the next 20 years as already have happened, as a fixed point in time. However as a time traveler, you do have the power to make little changes to save a few lives and make things just slightly better. One time traveler can’t do much, but many can.
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@RichBartlett Existential: Authoritarianism has always been the dominant global order since the advent of agrarianism. Even today it is the norm in most of the world and democracy is an anomaly. Standing up to the status quo, the global force of authoritarianism is ludicrous in its own right. Be that chaotic force of joyful lunacy, to put a thumb in the eye of authoritarianism knowing full well what a ridiculously massive task this is, and you may never see it in your lifetime but the long term impact is worth it.

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@anubis2814 that's some heavyweight options to ponder, thank you. I can see how each approach works, and how they could be complimentary, but whether they can all hold meaning in my head at the same time I've no idea!
@RichBartlett Yeah i had to print the out and hang them on my wall reading them several times a day until they sank in
@RichBartlett i have no answers really but... same. remembering that everything is temporary and allowing myself to laugh at all the absurdity helps sometimes
@noiseician there is much to laugh at!

@RichBartlett my current coping strategy for the impotent rage at the current state of our world and the utter failure of our political and social systems to do anything effective or even allow anything effective to be done.

Is to dress up in an inflatable bear costume and dance at protests.

It is effective as street theater, but whether street theater does anything in the current context is a question.

@laprice if it makes it easier to cope, and it makes some people smile or laugh then that is worth it.
@RichBartlett I mostly cope by tuning out from it. Not especially admirable perhaps, but not uncommon I think. My post hoc justification is that I only have so many spoons to spend, and I have to ration them. In a way I’m fortunate because I have a *lot* going on most of the time, so not much space for brooding. If I ever stopped to think about the world in any depth, I think I might go quite mad.
@hedders fair point, and an entirely valid approach. I probably doom scroll too much, that's a cycle to break.

@RichBartlett

Activism.

@Poljack I'm marching in 8 days and leafleting as soon as I can. Marching really helps, it's like a 10,000 people hug!

@RichBartlett

I uh... I actually spend a fair bit of time dissociating.

I dunno that it's a _good_ thing but... Yeah, I'm out of it a lot. I have _rage_ cycles. I spit fury into the interwebs ether. Sometimes it helps when folks respond, sometimes not.

Sometimes, I laugh when I don't want to cry.

Sometimes, I cry.

@401matthall its nice knowing how many people feel the same. And anything which protects your sanity is legit, so disassociating is understandable, though it's weird that we love in a world where so many people are doing that!

@RichBartlett I cope by trying to get involved with changing things, even if it doesn't always end up working. Being a visible audible, conscious objector.

But yeah, it still gets me down sometimes and it's frustrating. It's hard being the "Debbie Downer" all the time πŸ˜….

@javensbukan yup, I so get tired of being seen as 'the weird one' when carrying on as 'normal' is actually the insane thing to do!
@RichBartlett I find spite is more powerful than anger or rage. It might not change much but just knowing how much it will annoy certain people that I do or don't do certain things makes it easier to cope and focus on what I find important. Especially if it's something I otherwise find great joy in doing.
@saederup yeah refusing to charge our EV at a Shell garage is definitely spite but I just want everyone else (or just 20% of people) to do it too so something changes!
@RichBartlett
Limit your exposure to rage inducement, being perpetually angry just bleeds into other areas of your day-to-day.

And by saying that I don't mean roll over and play dead.

Look for joy where you can, fight battles you can win even if it only is drawing groucho moustaches or sarcastic word bubbles on advertising hoardings with marker pen.
@calcius we have recently had fun painting over racist flags or tearing them down (the UK had a wave of 'patriotic' hoisting of flags on lampposts in a lot of areas, designed to intimidate anyone who wasn't white). That was fun, but now we've run out of flags nearby!
@RichBartlett
Any Toby Carveries or Weatherspoons in your area?
@calcius not a lot, but all of those flags are on the A14 or the A1, so I don't think they people who put the flags up were local in any way, it was a drive by flagging.
@RichBartlett
It would be terrible if people were to write graffiti along the lines of

"St George's father was from Turkey and his mother was from Palestine"
@calcius that is PERFECT. It's got Monty Python "your mother was a hamster" vibes to it.

@RichBartlett thank you so much for asking this question. I am gobbling up ppl's replies.

For myself:

1) any kind of movement helps gets that rage buildup out of my body

2) using that anger to fuel momma-bear protectiveness for those more vulnerable than me

3) even small acts of rebellion help me feel I still have power

4) anger is protective, so when rage is off the hook I am probably feeling worn out and vulnerable - rest, reach out, recharge

@vlrny there's common themes appearing; exercise/self care, channelling the rage into action and just rebelling. You're right though, sometimes you're just too tired, which I guess is the body saying to stop for a bit.
@RichBartlett I am investing some of my savings in small, projects through crowdfunding. Local organic farms, solar projects, organic restaurants - things that make sense and contribute towards the future.
@sandorspruit that's a great idea. We already shop organic, but directly supporting small endeavours like this could be really effective. I'll see of there's crowd funders like that for local projects.
@RichBartlett In fact, I’m in a group of 500 locals that have started their own farm cooperative, from the ground up. We are hiring multiple skilled farmers who organize, coordinate the complicated things, help whenever possible with practical stuff. Currently 45 varieties of veg, potatoes, onions, 45 varieties of fruit, nuts, pigs and cattle. Not bad after four years πŸ˜ƒ
@sandorspruit that's amazing! Is there somewhere I can read about this?
@RichBartlett Sure. It is in Dutch, but I am sure you can get the essence, with some translation tools. There are now 25 such farms around the Netherlands, all more or less based on the same concept: https://www.herenboeren.nl/
Natuurlijk samen, bij Herenboeren

Haal lekker lokaal en onbespoten voedsel van een Herenboerderij bij jou in de buurt. Dat is natuurlijk genieten!

Herenboeren
@sandorspruit brilliant thank you. Firefox translations doing the good work!
Well, I stopped watching the news, for one...
So maybe direct (some of) your rage at the people making you angry. They are literally ruining your life, and they don't care. They only want to make you more angry. They don't deserve your attention. No matter how important their words may seem, they only seem.

And I'm not just talking about the obvious trolls trying to rile you up for laughs. The people trying to help by making you angry are also not worth your time.

CC: @[email protected]

@RichBartlett @vlrny we are all doing what we can, within our means. In addition, I find it makes a big difference, to me, to have regular zoom checkpoints w. like-minded friends.

β–ͺ Monday: cowork with C. We use Pomodoro timeboxes for important things we'd otherwise procrastinate on.

β–ͺ alternate Sundays: sit & quietly art journal & chat with friends near & far.

β–ͺ alternate Fridays: end of week unwind with a dear colleague.

These keep me anchored, let me vent, keep us all human & softer. πŸ™β€

@deborahh @vlrny love those. There are connections we made in South Devon with people we should probably reconnect with. Plus making more connections is something I need to put more effort into!

@RichBartlett It goes in waves for me. Sometimes I can cope hoping things will be better later and try to focus on improvibg myself and otger times I just can't cope and have a meltdown.

I have been lucky enough though recently to find a local business that needs IT help, so I have a way to make money without directly helping billionaires.

@RichBartlett I also created the channel solarpunkusa with a Playlist on how toto build sustainable community. Now i have to figure out how to get others near me on board

@RichBartlett i'm not sure this is a solveable problem. i think everything at the individual or household level can just be mitigated.

what i did learn a long time ago is that rage is an unsustainable energy source.

@RichBartlett

Yes, being almost perpetually angry is a feeling I share. And in my personal surroundings, anger is a state frowned upon by people. I don't really know what to do about it. I don't cope well, so far.

Activism helped to get in personal contact with like-minded people. But now I'm very reluctant to draw more repression towards myself (bad experiences there). I came to see that we are in it for the long haul, and am trying to participate in long term party organizing. Doing slow stuff helps, too, like cooking. I'd love to do more gardening, if I could.

Thanks for opening this discussion. I appreciate it.
@snippet I'm lucky enough to have an immediate family who accept anger (we're definitely angrier at the state of the world than the average family), sorry its frowned upon in your environment. Doing the long term work is powerful, and the allotment is a source of earthy joy for us. Does feel like accessible community to combat isolation is a common problem for activists, so it's not just me, hopefully we can find some way to improve that.

@RichBartlett

For the rage against the state of the world, I can offer the handprint concept:

https://kolektiva.social/@earthworm/112530668693156607

Earthworm 🐌 (@[email protected])

Attached: 1 image Many people share your feelings. Our societies are facing environmental collapse. We feel that we have to do something. But we don't know where to start. ... My thoughts on this: We need collective action. We can recycle and save tapwater until our fingers fall off. If the structures don't change, individual actions will mostly keep us busy while the world gets burned because of a mixture of rich people's greed, bureaucrats that "just do their job" and a society that has too little phantasy to see the many desirable alternatives to this apocalyptic late-stage capitalism. There is this amazing concept of the handprint, making you ask yourself the question: "where can I promote societal change?". This is on contrast to the 'carbon footprint' that measures the impact of our individual lifestyle and shifts the guilt to the people. This concept was widely promoted by fossil fuel companies. [1] At the bottom of the web is the link to the poster [2]. It is quite straightforward to use e.g. in a workshop with other people asking themselves the question "what can we do?". 1. What topic am I enthusiastic about? (E.g. sustainable mobility, ecological agriculture, renewable energy, social justice...) 2. At which level am I familiar with decision-making processes ? (At work, university, religious group, neighbourhood...) 3. What is the best way to implement my idea? (Make the sustainable option the default, pressure politicians, make sustainable more known or affordable...) 4. Which allies do I need? (Initiatives, colleagues, experts, politicians, media) And here you go. At the end you have a plan for an attainable objective that will make a difference and bring change on a higher level. All that while showing yourself that you can be part of the change, creating community and mobilizing others. We have a lot to do, so this is something to start with. :anarchoheart3: Interestingy, the handprint was originally launched by the Indian organisation CEE ( https://www.ceeindia.org ) as an open concept of positive action! 1: https://medium.com/greener-together/who-invented-the-carbon-footprint-the-shocking-origins-13d940d05f59 2: https://www.handprint-hub.de/handprint-concept 3: further reading: "The solutions are already here" by the fantastic @[email protected] https://archive.org/details/tfsr20220417-PeterGelderloos @[email protected] @[email protected] #Degrowth #SolarPunk #CarbonFootprint #EcologicalFootprint #Activism #ClimateChange #Organizing #Community #Neighbourhood #Germanwatch

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