KristineMar 16
A friendship developed but friends had different hopes and intention for future and a break was inevitable. The friend may return at some point to rekindle friendship. This friend has nowhere to be, no interest in finding other friends or friendships to replace what is lost, and would very much appreciate said friendship. Should I
Stay - they may return and it may be great
0%
Go - leave this. No good will ever come of this
100%
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Show threadKristineMar 16

Current status: The predominant opinion is that if there has been any interest of something more from either party, even when no such interest has been explored but merely the knowledge of it, a fully functional and healthy platonic friendship can never occur.

Needless to say, I want this friendship but am starting to realize that is going against common sense of my peer group.

Reaching out to my community #forkiverse and the people of #friends and #friendship

Correct. Platonic is off the table
25%
Nope. Time heals and you can get there
75%
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Show threadanyone_can_whistleMar 16
@Kristine I don't understand the question in the first poll but you can definitely get to platonic after asymmetric interest -- I have. Sometimes it might require a healthy break though.
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@anyone_can_whistle I am at that break part. And my question in the initial poll was if there was ever a way forward, or if I should stop waiting. I want my person to return and be happy and content with the platonic relationship I can offer. I care about their happiness and I am wondering if their happiness would be better kept intact if I removed myself from a future potential friendship. Can I ask, what is a healthy break in your experience?
Mar 16 at 9:07pmWeb
Show threadanyone_can_whistleMar 16
@Kristine I've been both the more interested and the less interested. It's easier for me to remember what I needed in the case where I was more interested. I think it was 6 months. It probably depends on how deep the relationship and feelings were. In my case it was relatively new friendship/crush. It may also depend on the other person really taking the opportunity to get excited about someone new. Even if that doesn't work out, it tends to cool the memory of whatever came before.