realitistaWhen women have a crush on men
men are discouraged from approaching women and women dont want to show their interest in clear way. How have we not gone extinct yet?
We are on the way. sex and relationship rates are massively declining for Gen Z.
I have four newphews 16-20. they have all dated. all but one of them has already sworn off dating because they think it’s total bullshit and they thought it was miserable and no fun to have a girlfriend.
Where are you finding these women? I’ve never dated anyone like that. Not disputing that they exist, but to take out enough of them that it’s worth bitching about online may indicate a problem with the choices you’re making. Plenty of women are looking for an actual connection and relationship with someone.
You’re kinda down to the dregs when you get to your thirties, the nice ones have all paired up by that point.
I’m in my 30s and I don’t feel that way at all. Yeah, there’s lots of shitty people or ones I don’t vibe with but that’s been the case my whole life. Many of the ones that I’d have considered a poor match in my early 20s have matured since then into much more likable people. If you’re using dating apps though, you are probably going to get more exposure to the dregs. One of many reasons I don’t touch those. You can still meet people the old fashioned way by going out and doing things. You may not find someone as quickly but you’re not getting constant negativity thrown in your face.
dating in my early 30s was great. once i got past 35 thought, it all went to shit. 9/10 dates i meet now give me this long premable about how their exes all sucked and i better be better than them. it’s insane. like they will approach me at a bar/event and just start ranting at me.
and the 1/10 one that doesn’t… has never dated and has basically no adult life experience. i did go out with a nice lady last month… but she was had zero real life experience and I’m not interested in that either.
every normal, happy, well adjust woman I meet is already married. that includes all my female friends over the years. the funny part is they are so chill you don’t even know they are married because they don’t really talk about their SO at all… because they are their own person and don’t have a partner who defines them and from which they derive their worth and self esteem… and if you flirt with them they just point it out and it’s no big deal.
Many will have married already, so choices when I was in my 30’s tended to be:
- Somebody who didn’t marry because they really were careful about who they want to date or settle down with. This could be fine, but could also mean unrealistic expectations or some issue that hadn’t worked through previously (I was in the latter boat)
- Somebody who married and divorced, possibly due to a relationship that went bad. They may be the cause of that, the victim of it, or other circumstances. Increased chance of kids and ex issues
- Married but the spouse passed away (30+ is increased chances for previously unknown medical issues to crop up, it just a car accident)
- Somebody who didn’t have it together enough (in their mind) to even consider relationships. Could have been persuing a career or took a bit to get past the “wild party” stage
- Immigrants. People who worked to get out of one country and to another and relationships weren’t in the cards yet. There can be possible language/cultural miscommunication hurdles (including different social cues)
I wouldn’t say it’s the dregs. Just that one’s choices have changed a lot from “the one a couple houses/lockers down from you”.