Fyi you as a regular person do not need to be looking at pics/vids of dead kids. If you can *imagine the idea* of a dead kid and it makes you feel bad/sick, then no extra viewing will help our world, but it can hurt you - a lot - and that threatens how you *can* show up in tangible ways to make life better for us all.

#care #kindness

@Trenton_Hoshiko as someone who has looked at horrible things professionally at times in my life, i'd like to echo and reinforce this. When I am looking at, writing about, analyzing suffering, violence, death etc I've already mentally prepared myself and i have methods of mode shifting. It's something I'm either doing or not doing. It's not casual, it's not data foraging. And I have exit activities.

@quinn @Trenton_Hoshiko i need all y'all to know that this is super helpful & an important reminder, even for people like me who already know all of this. This world super sucks & the present moment is horrifying. But it is so hard to wrench yourself away when access to all the information in the world is ***RIGHT THERE*** at every second.

Honestly at this point it is damn near meditative to exercise the self control necessary to not keep falling into this trap. We all need reminders.

@itsmeholland @Trenton_Hoshiko Tetris, petting cats, and gardening man. Can't doomscroll while you're doing any of those

@itsmeholland
I feel this a lot. Honestly many of my posts are reminders to myself just as much as anyone else, because scrolling can be too easy sometimes.

@quinn

@Trenton_Hoshiko @quinn literally i was awake for like 4 hours after i posted that reply bc even when i put my phone away, lied in bed & closed my eyes to try to sleep, as soon as i started to doze my head just filled with nukes, dead kids, & the question of what to do when the bombs are falling & you find yourself in 1930s GERMANY. I guess that's called PTSD lol. Or at least anxiety. From just being alive in America for almost 35 years. 🥲 & to think... Less than 1/3 of that has been peacetime.
@itsmeholland I'm really sorry that has been happening to you. That is really hard. If you havent tried the tetris trick yet (or really any game/activity that has some fast eye movment/bright colors/focused thought) it might be worth a shot - that kind of situation is one time I definitely do it myself.
Beyond that, I really hope you get some personal relief that allows you the rest that you need to be active in your life and all it entails. Sending you my best! 🫂
@Trenton_Hoshiko thank you so much, seriously you seem really kind :)
@itsmeholland I try and just really want people to be as ok as they can be. Thank you for you kind words as well, they mean a lot! :)