Trenton Hoshiko | FilmmakerFyi you as a regular person do not need to be looking at pics/vids of dead kids. If you can *imagine the idea* of a dead kid and it makes you feel bad/sick, then no extra viewing will help our world, but it can hurt you - a lot - and that threatens how you *can* show up in tangible ways to make life better for us all.
Also, if you see something traumatic, I say this especially as someone with hyperphantasia, a pretty well researched tip is to pretty immediately play Tetris (or any bright quick eye moment game) to help reduce PTSD/imagery flashbacks.
If you need helping focusing on stuff on your immediate life: https://mas.to/@Trenton_Hoshiko/116151351309269942
Addendum: be gentle with yourselves, things are quite hard and, especially if you get it nowhere else, you deserve to give you a little extra space to just exist as a human.
Jenny@Trenton_Hoshiko 100% concur, eye movement or other bilateral movements (butterfly hugs, knee taps, even just walking) are great for processing and relieving stress (à la EMDR)
Anthony DavidI had my first EMDR session today!
It was a real roller coaster. I am in a better space.
@adavid @Trenton_Hoshiko That’s great! I’ve done it myself and also love doing it with clients, the brain’s ability to heal itself is amazing. Good for you!!!
Ericka Simone@Trenton_Hoshiko oh this explains so much about my life as an award winning Tetris player. lmaoooo.
@ErickaSimone I watched a tetris competition video a while back and it was so cool - that's awesome youve won awards. I hope it remains something you enjoy for any and all good things it can do with the brain!
John Wilson@Trenton_Hoshiko I had no idea that hyperphantasia exists. As someone with aphantasia, I literally cannot imagine that.
That’s a good tip though. Seeing traumatic shit still fucks with me and I forget about Tetris helping with that
@crazybutable my partner has aphantasia! We've had a lot of talks about how that difference in processing changes how things are recorded/affect you. One way i describe hyperphantasia to her is having a constant image overlay of my thoughts on the world i physically see, like if there was a projector playing a movie of memories/thoughts wherever I am. Similarly I can barely conceive of what not having that happen would be like!
I hope the tetris helps if needed. Take care of yourself! :)
I hope the tetris helps if needed. Take care of yourself! :)
@Trenton_Hoshiko I knew a girl one time who talked about how The Matrix was her favorite movie. Then she said she could just play it for herself whenever she wanted.
After some questioning, yes, this girl could, after watching a movie, perfectly replay it any time she wanted to watch it. And pause it, examine the frame, and start it back up again.
@crazybutable that is so cool! I can't quite keep focus enough to do it exactly like that, but I can pretty much pull up individual frames from stuff I saw years ago. Im always amazed at the vast, and diverse, amount of things brains can so. Thanks for sharing that story!
Quinn Norton@Trenton_Hoshiko as someone who has looked at horrible things professionally at times in my life, i'd like to echo and reinforce this. When I am looking at, writing about, analyzing suffering, violence, death etc I've already mentally prepared myself and i have methods of mode shifting. It's something I'm either doing or not doing. It's not casual, it's not data foraging. And I have exit activities.
✨buff dog himbo✨@quinn @Trenton_Hoshiko i need all y'all to know that this is super helpful & an important reminder, even for people like me who already know all of this. This world super sucks & the present moment is horrifying. But it is so hard to wrench yourself away when access to all the information in the world is ***RIGHT THERE*** at every second.
Honestly at this point it is damn near meditative to exercise the self control necessary to not keep falling into this trap. We all need reminders.
@itsmeholland @Trenton_Hoshiko Tetris, petting cats, and gardening man. Can't doomscroll while you're doing any of those
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I feel this a lot. Honestly many of my posts are reminders to myself just as much as anyone else, because scrolling can be too easy sometimes.
@Trenton_Hoshiko @quinn literally i was awake for like 4 hours after i posted that reply bc even when i put my phone away, lied in bed & closed my eyes to try to sleep, as soon as i started to doze my head just filled with nukes, dead kids, & the question of what to do when the bombs are falling & you find yourself in 1930s GERMANY. I guess that's called PTSD lol. Or at least anxiety. From just being alive in America for almost 35 years. 🥲 & to think... Less than 1/3 of that has been peacetime.
@itsmeholland I'm really sorry that has been happening to you. That is really hard. If you havent tried the tetris trick yet (or really any game/activity that has some fast eye movment/bright colors/focused thought) it might be worth a shot - that kind of situation is one time I definitely do it myself.
Beyond that, I really hope you get some personal relief that allows you the rest that you need to be active in your life and all it entails. Sending you my best! 🫂
Beyond that, I really hope you get some personal relief that allows you the rest that you need to be active in your life and all it entails. Sending you my best! 🫂
@Trenton_Hoshiko thank you so much, seriously you seem really kind :)
@itsmeholland I try and just really want people to be as ok as they can be. Thank you for you kind words as well, they mean a lot! :)