Jenica Lake เหล็ถเลถHow many times have you moved house?
Still live at my first abode
One time I moved
2-5 times
6-10 times
11-20 times
21-30 times
31-40 times
More than 40 times
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Brath@MamaLake I am a middle-aged white male in an extremely white country. Being discriminated against isn't really something I have to deal with.
@s_d_brath is there any way you are open to supporting those that do not have your privilege? Whether in advocacy or financial support?
@s_d_brath 🙏thank you
CyIt's funny because discrimination isn't always so overt as the neighbors directly bullying you. I've been effectively homeless, given no property to be driven from, relying only on the kindness of others to have a place to live for most of my life, and people are demanding that I support the unprivileged just because of the color of my skin. Like yeah, go ahead, take the land from the rich fucks. They deserve none of it. Build yourself a good life, and maybe let me live there too. But what am I supposed to do for you? Give you the only person in the world who cares for me enough to allow me to sleep? Tell the rich fucks very sternly to give up their property, and wait for them to voluntarily comply? Because that's what protesting is. Force them to, with my one pathetic fist against their armies?
We need to stop thinking about privilege, and start thinking about helping each other out, however we can.
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We need to stop thinking about privilege, and start thinking about helping each other out, however we can.
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@cy @MamaLake I don't believe you can't be discriminated against just because you are part of the primary segment of the society you live in. Some people will always find some common denominator to hate people for, when they need a scapegoat, even if it is just something silly like education level or what zip code they live in.
webhat@MamaLake white people sometimes don't recognise that they've moved because of systemic discrimination, it's called white flight
@webhat having black people move into an area and then choosing to move is a form of white supremacy imo
David Mitchell 
Janeishly
AM💙🏴@MamaLake one person moving because of discrimination is one too many
Appalling in 21st c but hate is being manufactured and promoted see https://www.taxresearch.org.uk/Blog/2026/02/26/the-real-far-right-agenda/
Appalling in 21st c but hate is being manufactured and promoted see https://www.taxresearch.org.uk/Blog/2026/02/26/the-real-far-right-agenda/
The real far-right agenda
This is from The Guardian yesterday: The chart shows the overall sentiment towards migration and migrants expressed in the House of Commons by year. It is based on linguistic analysis of more than 200,000 comments in debates. Note that sentiment was always positive, except in 1927, for 80 years. Then, in 2006, sentiment...
Dr Ro Smith@MamaLake Hard to say. I moved home twice because of harassment, and it's unclear what motivated it, but I don't think it would have happened if I were a large cis man instead of a small AFAB non-binary person.
Abram Kedge🏴🇨🇦 wryly@MamaLake I preemptively moved in anticipation of discrimination. I think if I had stayed, by now I wouldn't dare drive across to see family in Canada, for fear of being detained on return to the US.
@AbramKedge I’m glad you followed your instinct, the states are not safe.
Orjan@MamaLake Increased xenophobia in the UK after Brexit was definitely a factor in me leaving the UK after 20+ years working there. Not so much overt discrimination as a feeling of being unwelcome from media and politicians.
(Work and friends were always immigrant-friendly, it was just society at large that wasn't.)
proedieWhat is the worst part of moving?
Packing
Unpacking
Sorting through memories
The cost
Losing closeness to friends/family
Emotional destabilization
Having to find new (doctors, parks, groceries etc)
Exhaustion
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Heather KavanaghThe worst part? All of the above, frankly.
@MamaLake Realusing, shortly after you've done it, (or in the worst cases before, but you can't pull out by then) that the new place doesn't work either and you're going to have to do it again.
@janeishly this! Makes it so hard to get the ground under us when we have to continue living out of boxes while we work and look for another place. This just happened to my mom, finally moved into a rental (5 bedrooms! My mother's dream!) just to find that the landlord is an abusive stalker.
@MamaLake Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear that. It's such a horrible, heartbreaking feeling after all the effort moving requires, both physical and mental. I hope she finds somewhere that actually works.
I finally managed to get somewhere with housing when I moved country, and then even more so when I moved to a third country. Here in Sweden I have my own detached place in a small quiet (enough) town. It's like heaven. People look at the place (and the house, which is big and a bit weird) and go "but why would you choose to live here?"
Because I actually *can* live here, unlike almost everywhere else I've ever spent time.
@janeishly it’s amazing when we find the place that just fits us, no matter what others think. Happy for you to have found your place!
@MamaLake @janeishly Oh wow, that's awful!
Similar-but-different: I moved from the Worst Flat, with abusive noisy neighbours, impossible to heat, freezing cold, to the Second Worst Flat. Tiny. Ended up with noisy neighbours anyway, aggressively verbally abused for complaining about the noise. Discovered mould that destroyed many valued possessions.
RolloTreadway@MamaLake I selected packing and unpacking and exhaustion, because they're all part of the same thing.
Mind you, I included every time I've moved house in my life, which includes when I was one year old, so I'm not sure I contributed much to the packing and unpacking that time.
@MamaLake I may have counted too many things (10 moves). Not only did I include the time we moved house when I was one, I also included the three separate places that I lived when I was at uni.
I've moved six times after uni, including the move to the first place I lived afterwards.
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@MamaLake honestly just the stress of the move. several times we had to drive too, which we don't like and aren't very used to anymore.
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acb@MamaLake Having to communicate with and make really important commitments to complete strangers who may not be trustworthy.
Not knowing if my neighbours will be arseholes and I will just be moving to a new misery.
Lettings agents who contact utilities 'on my behalf' (against my explicit request that they don't) to update my details, which they always do incorrectly as they only have gendered titles on their systems and have assumed they know what my gender and marital status is.
Daniël Franke 
@MamaLake The bureaucracy around it is not great either.
What is the best part of moving?
New adventures
Choosing a safe zone
Finding new (doctors, parks, grocery etc)
Unpacking and finding favorites
Being close to friends/family
Better opportunities
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Easter Benny 🐇🥚
Urban Camera
Susanna the Artist 🌻Is moving servers/apps as challenging as moving house?
Yes
Yes, but…
No
No, but…
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How many servers have you hopped on since coming to #fediverse ?
Still rockin .social
Moved once since .social
2-5 times
6-11 times
+12
Self host
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Mx. Luna Corbden 🐸@MamaLake I've only moved once but was never on mastodon.social. 😝
Roche Limit@MamaLake
I've switched every couple of years since I joined - shut down servers, unfriendly servers, mods defending the 'in' group agressively...
Time for my 5th server soon. 😁
Eric G.
Mark Whybird@MamaLake aus.social is where I started, and it is great :)
Jon@MamaLake Moving servers is annoying. Moving houses is one of the most stressful things their is, especially as I never know if the new home will be safe. For me, the two do not compare.
Ha! Can’t vote on this one as I seem to have landed on the best server at the outset.
@snaptophobic fair, and if your server suddenly stopped functioning, would the move be challenging?
That’s a good question. I’d like to say "no". It might be awkward, but I don’t post or host anything here that's really important. If I lost posts I wouldn’t fret. Finding my friends again might be a bit fraught, but I’d live.
Gabriel 
@MamaLake I'm always in the process of migrating everything I can to open source alternatives, so I don't think moving apps is as challenging as moving house (which I find very exhausting).
Plus, if we're talking about the Fediverse, I don't think I will ever need to migrate from my instance; so far it's been superb.