> I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day

The examples included here are horrible. Not just the sex-shaming, but that too.

I'm far from convinced that a social media ban is the answer, but the comment is still well worth reading - especially by men.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/feb/23/15-year-old-girl-misogyny-social-media-online-abuse

I am a 15-year-old girl. Let me show you the vile misogyny that confronts me on social media every day

Objectification, hate, rape threats: the politicians debating online abuse mean well, but to truly understand, they need to see what I see

The Guardian
I am increasingly convinced social media ban IS the answer. Not a ban for under-16, but a total ban. Commercial social media just quite simply has to be burned to the ground, no one even tries to run it safely any more.
@neil

@osma @neil

Social media has also helped incredible amounts of people though. It's allowed marginalized minorities to find people like them. It's allowed people to organize against oppressive governments.

It's also curated local events and increased turnout and access to so many things for so many people.

We can say "burn it to the ground" and part of me wants to agree, but... It would harm a lot of people too.

Nope. Social networks did that. Social media subverted it to sell advertising.
@CordiallyChloe @neil

@osma @neil

Great, can you name some active social network that you're referring to that would be viable still if we abolished social media?

@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil yes, for whatever the real problems of social media there are also a bunch of things that aren’t problems with social media, that it’s nevertheless blamed for.

The Brianna Ghey case always comes to mind here: it’s been framed retroactively by her mother as a social media problem and used to argue in favour of a ban. But she wasn’t bullied online: she was bullied and murdered by people who she knew in person. Social media was in fact a safe place for her, where she found support. (It’s becoming increasingly clear that the ‘problem’ her mother perceives with social media is that it ‘turned her trans’.)

And that’s a more general pattern, I think, though not as extreme in most cases: a lot of LGBTQ young people have found support that way when they wouldn’t have been able to do so pre-internet. Age-restricting access to social media — and to LGBTQ-oriented content more broadly — seems directly harmful in those cases.

And then again for example that Guardian piece. It sounds awful — but I don’t think an age limit is the answer. Is misogyny towards adult women supposed to be okay? Either mandate that social media companies address the problem effectively, or ban them entirely — a ban for under-16s is just for the sake of looking like they’re doing something without it actually being meaningfully effective.

(Edit: to be clear I don’t think a social media ban would be positive overall, or even that it’s a workable concept — how do you define social media? — but it would at least make more sense than an age limit.)

@benjamineskola @osma @neil

To be clear, while this article is focused on teen girls, this is the stuff every minority sees on social media as well.

I'm trans. I have to actually relegate myself to only small corners of the internet because everywhere else feels so unsafe.

Meta no longer considers slurs and harassment of trans people as "against their policies." So any Meta platform is insufferable for me now.

Twitter actually encourages harassment of trans people and made the word "cis" a bannable offense.

And if I stray too far from the queer spaces of Reddit, I'll get called a man and doxxed pretty quickly.

I've been doxxed while using Insta in the past simply for existing as a trans person.

But the algorithm is the problem here. It's force feeding hate to kids and teaching them that it's good to hate. Monetizing hate is the issue and is what should be regulated.

@CordiallyChloe @benjamineskola @osma @neil

What about normalising safe space culture?
(& Fossify?)

@benjamineskola It's also worth bearing in mind that "protecting the children" is a smokescreen, not the objective, and it's not even about being seen to be doing something. If it were about that, they'd be acting on expert advice instead of steamrolling over it.

This is about forcing identification of everybody online, and suppressing the ability of people to connect - especially queer folk.
@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil

@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil Ban capitalist social media(*) and everyone migrates to the fediverse or what comes next.

(*) defined as all the aspects that make it profitable

@dalias @osma @neil

That's not a realistic suggestion. It won't happen.

@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil Stop setting the Overton window for them. You demand what you want and negotiate from there. Maybe you end up with bans on algorithmic slop feeds, or mandatory opt-in for them. Maybe you end up with mandatory strong controls against unwanted and hostile contact. Maybe you end up with liability for anything they promote or display in an ad. All of these are useful outcomes to shift the power dynamics but you don't get anything by saying "that won't happen" when someone makes a demand.

@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil The point is that "ban capitalist social media" is a demand our side can rally behind.

Unlike "ban social media" which is intentionally divisive and fucks over everyone who depends on it for a lifeline, or "ban kids from the internet" which largely does the same and also suppresses participation by anyone who can't safely show ID and serves the interests of fascism and surveillance capitalism.

@dalias @osma @neil

I won't rally behind "ban social media."

It includes places like Mastodon. This is still social media.

It would push out new start-ups bc they'd be unable to keep up with legislative requirements.

It would prevent LGBTQ people from accessing critical information and communities.

It would fracture organizations and groups that need it to survive.

Even if your argument is that we should be "negotiating high," it's still not a negotiation anyone will team up behind.

Try "ban hate speech" and negotiate down to "ban profit-driven algorithmic hate."

RE: https://mas.to/@osma/115926080124459252

This is not social media. Media has centralized editorial control.
@CordiallyChloe @dalias @neil

@osma @dalias @neil

Mastodon is defined as *social* media.

You can nitpick, redefine, and hyperfocus on a word all you want. It doesn't change the fact that mastodon, bluesky, Facebook, threads, Twitter, reddit, TikTok, and Pixelfed are all considered social media by the wider public, meaning that's how it's handled, discussed, and defined.

I see people do this all the time with words like "transphobia." They say "a phobia is a fear. I'm not afraid of trans people." And that's wrong for a million reasons. And the hyperfocus on a root of the word doesn't change what transphobia is or what it means.

@CordiallyChloe @osma @dalias @neil

I remember ~15 years ago seeing an argument on a forum where one person argued that they never use internet forums and all internet forums should be banned. On a forum.

I'm "glad" (not glad) to see that the same trolling is alive and well on the fediverse.
@osma @CordiallyChloe @neil Regardless of whether centralized is an essential quality, "social media" is badly framed naming and we should reject it. The term used to be social *networking* which framed the purpose it serves for participants. "Media" frames the purpose as serving publishers/advertisers.

@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil I explicitly said to reject "ban social media".

Rather "ban CAPITALIST social media".

If you don't like that wording, "ban monetization of peoples social interactions and networks". "Ban addiction-optimization feeds". Etc. The wording isn't the topic here. The concept is.

@dalias @osma @neil

But "capitalist" isn't defined in any of our law. It's not something that can be banned effectively.

You're acting like you can just throw a word at the wall and make everyone act on it appropriately. It's like the whole "socialism is a good thing actually" argument. And then you get people from actual socialist countries who are like "no the fuck it is not." Like, the definition and the reality/application of it are two totally different things.

So sure, ban capitalist social media. Cool. We still lose Mastodon because someone is probably making money off it somewhere.

@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil *Sigh* I have already explained that you need to sit down and define a specific set of characteristics that "capitalist social media" depends on to be profitable. Banning a big enough subset of those to break them is then your concrete policy demand.

"Ban capitalist social media" is the goal you're trying to achieve with these policy demands, the motive for your supporters to support them.

@dalias @CordiallyChloe @osma @neil For example, a ban on collecting or using personal data for marketing purposes and on selling it for any purpose?

With the bonus of helping the rest of the web too.

@CordiallyChloe
> I won't rally behind "ban social media."
> It includes places like Mastodon.

That's true but "ban capitalist social media" doesn't include Mastodon.

It's a demand that (hopefully) would encourage Meta etc to dramatically improve, to avoid a ban.

Startups could avoid a ban by beginning with no mandatory/opt-out manipulative algorithms (easy) and proper moderation (harder but should be non-negotiable to avoid new nazi bars).

@dalias @osma @neil

@dalias @CordiallyChloe @osma @neil

Leftist people should understand that domination isn't democracy: you don't ask the dominating class to please do something nice because that's not how it even works with itself
@CordiallyChloe @osma @neil I dare say - initially the social networks (blogs, early Twitter) also helped privileged people like me (cis het white abled male in EU) to hear the voices of all kinds of less represented groups, also abroad.
In the physical world, in direct interaction, the local demographics and social structure both are a strong filter. News came in from a limited number of (controlled, tamed, poisoned) outlets.
This completely shielded us privileged from all the suffering, and the struggle, needs, concerns, opinions, ideas existing outside our small landscape:
early social networks were a way to escape some of these physical filters.
Now they are another system of filters, and I think only a cognizant use of mastodon and RSS (and Signal) would have the same positive function they initially had.

@joe_vinegar @osma @neil

That's exactly why the right wing has been so persistent in taking control of it all. Twitter was one of our biggest sources of information and exposure. When Musk took it over, minorities immediately scattered. I know for a fact that MOST trans people left the platform immediately, fully deleting their accounts.

You can still find exposure to new thoughts and ideas through reddit and insta, but you have to choose it and you have to be prepared to filter out the slop and hate in the process. And that's a big ask for most people.