Irene (she/they, Sir/Mr.)

One of my 2026 goals is to be my own ideal partner/date myself more deliberately (im already autosexual, so it makes relentless sense)

To that end, im planning my first date of the year with myself, and ngl ive straight up got all the feelings i nornally get before a date with someone i dont know well (what are "we" gonna do? Are "they" gonna like me? Omg what will i wear??? 😭)

To manage the discombobulation, ive made a list of decisions i need to make:

- choose budget
- choose location/time
- choose activity
- choose outfit
- choose food/libations

Whew im both relieved and already exhausted, but i also know im a fantastic partner and worth the effort of planning 🩷 wow, reminding myself what i like about myself and the concrete things that make me a good partner are helping me be excited more than nervous! More and more confident all the time that the thing missing from my previous relationships was, in fact, me 🥰

#dating #selfcare #selflove #autosexual

Jan 8 at 12:32amWeb
Show threadIrene (she/they, Sir/Mr.)Jan 8

✅ choose budget: $25
✅ choose location/time: this Friday, sunset at a beach
✅ choose activity: burn a log and watch the sun go down
✅ choose outfit: warm, wind resistant -- jeans, boots, sweater, soft houndstooth scarf, warm coat, slouchy knitted hat
✅ choose food/libations: mini charcuterie plate (i already have most of the ingredients in my fridge), gin sprite (bc i have some lemon lime soda and a discreet bottle already, and ive been wanting to get some gin anyway)

Now I just have to figure a plan to manage my minor agorophobia... oh well thats a problem for Tomorrow Me to solve