dig a little deeper about what we’re saying here.

if Sarah McBride had more courage, she says, she would have come out sooner

isn’t this just victim blaming at its absolute finest?

i know Sarah McBride catches a lot of shit but it’s not even her that’s the problem here. this is a very typical speech given by a lot of what i would consider very young transitioners

the goal should be to make it fine to transition at any age, and to build a world that will even accept freaks like me who transitioned at 40 and as a result am not fuckable or socially well adjusted

you know why i came out at 40? because by the time i was in my 20s and in a position to do anything about it i was already “too old”

that’s what this rhetoric does

they want to force us to transition older to stop us from being able to pass as well

they morally judge and shame those who do it older, because passing and being fuckable is our only possible value

because it’s not like we’re human beings or anything we’re just porn catagory novelty counterfeit women

the other day I saw the slogan “it’s never too late” applied to someone who transitioned at 18

for the love of ishtar get a grip.

in a world in which several countries have just banned puberty blockers, and are considering banning any kind of gender affirming care for adults too, with an age threshold that keeps creeping up from 19, to 25, to 30, to 40… and 200 year wait times

I need you to appreciate how “i transitioned at 18, it’s never too late” is speaking from a place of a fuck of a lot of privilege, the privilege of.calling a full year earlier than what many are now being are told is the earliest they can start “late”.

and frankly tone deafness about what many people *under 18* are facing now, being locked out of transition care until they’re wayyyy older than 18, if ever.

it’s not liberation. it’s not acknowledging the pain of wrong puberty. it’s applying a moral judgement to age of transition, when it’s not about courage, or individual agency. it’s about family, community and legal and medical support.

it’s kind of a big “fuck you, got mine” to both older and younger trans people

@bri7

Thank you for calling this out!

Now i really want to see where she said this. Not saying it didn't happen. Just that i've had problems with Sarah McBride for a while now and this just sounds like another strike against her.

i first came out at 12, but couldn't transition because it was the 80's and that just wasn't a thing. And my parents sent me to a psychiatrist to be "cured". So much for my bravery.

Then i came out again at 19. And my parents sent me back to the same psychiatrist and bullied me for the next 5 years to keep me from transitioning. Bravery didn't help then either.

When i finally did start transition at the age of 24 i joined a support group and was one of the youngest people in the group. The idea that 21 is a "late late super old" age is absurd! i'm sorry she couldn't transition sooner, but you know what? A lot of us coudn't transition sooner! Maybe we were prevented by family, like i was, or maybe we had been taught to repress ourselves, or maybe we just literally didn't have enough information to even recognize what we truly needed. The most important thing is just that at some point we decided that it was time to do something and we made the decision to transition.

When i had my surgery i was 28. There was another woman staying at the recovery house with me at the same time, and she was in her 60s! It wasn't too late for her! She was a real inspiration and though i no longer remember her name i will never forget the look of joy on her face,