Sometimes it takes a while. Run your own race, not theirs. I didn’t figure out what I wanted to do till I was 30. Before then I was absolutely anon, living in a room with a mattress, a PC and a pile of empty vodka bottles i sold plasma to pay for. Now I’ve got a career, a family, a home.

Dont compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own course to follow and their own struggles to get through.

I’m about to have my first child at 48. I wasn’t ready before now.

Pardon me asking (and feel free to ignore): Isn’t that scary to have a child so late in life? I’m worried about the impact my age will have on my relationship with my kids and I’m roughly a decade younger.

I just don’t see the point in worrying about it. I haven’t been scared since I found out and Idon’t think I will be now that’s it’s about 4 weeks away. I’ve been too busy buying and planning things and then I’ll be too busy changing nappies.

I’m just going to get on with it and not worry about it. The good news is that I’m already waking up in the middle of the night for a pee so I’m somewhat practiced at that.

[same disclaimer] Was it planned?

We were trying, yes.

Also back to your relationship question that I probably didn’t answer. I already know someone in advanced age with a kid and they have a great relationship. I haven’t even considered it. As long as I live a while longer I’m sure I’ll have a healthy relationship. I’m quite a chill person and young at heart and genuinely don’t see that as an issue.

If anything I think it might even be better! I genuinely think it will be beneficial that I’m not trying to grow up at the same time as my kid and can act as a caring and relaxed parent without any additional stress.