🍹Early to RISA 🧉Oct 19

Anon checks up on a childhood friend

https://sh.itjust.works/post/48179679

Show threadA_Union_of_KoboldsOct 19

Sometimes it takes a while. Run your own race, not theirs. I didn’t figure out what I wanted to do till I was 30. Before then I was absolutely anon, living in a room with a mattress, a PC and a pile of empty vodka bottles i sold plasma to pay for. Now I’ve got a career, a family, a home.

Dont compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own course to follow and their own struggles to get through.

Show threadGrimtuckOct 19
I’m about to have my first child at 48. I wasn’t ready before now.
Show threadEq0Oct 19
Pardon me asking (and feel free to ignore): Isn’t that scary to have a child so late in life? I’m worried about the impact my age will have on my relationship with my kids and I’m roughly a decade younger.
Show threadryedaft

200 years ago people also had kids quite late.

And we live so much longer than even 40 years ago. Life is so much better and safer now.

Oct 19 at 10:03amWeb
Show threadEq0Oct 19
But the nuclear family is much younger, so today’s kids rely much more heavily and directly on their parents with respect to kids 200 years ago. The “village” build around multigenerational housing has disappeared, making the age of parents a much bigger factor than earlier on
Show threadPlasticLoveOct 21
200 years ago people were having kids t 15-16
Show threadRBWellsOct 21

And at 40 and 45, since there wasn’t birth control.

I was honestly surprised when I looked at a genealogy site, so many of my ancestresses got married at 28-30, I guess reading Little House on the Prairie when I was a kid made me think all those women of old times married young but nope, that did not seem to be the case.