It might be tempting to think that "it's easier to have kids in your 20s and early 30s than later" is just something annoying relatives who want nephews and grandkids without doing all the hard work say, or worse something the creepiest men on the internet say just before demanding child marriage be legalized.
But, it's also kind of true.
If you want to have kids don't dwaddle if possible. IVF is no fun. It sucks. Stop trying to own a house and have the perfect job before you have kids.
@futurebird
I'm an older parent and would recommend it. It's when I was ready. Both kids born after my 35th birthday and they're 5 years apart.
Fun fact all the literature from decades ago on increased birth defects with increasing maternal age was found to be bullshit. (When you correct for the n, the difference is insignificant) Same is being found for fertility. Remember when we were told we're born with all the eggs we'll ever have? Yeah that was wrong...
You are so very right. The “pro natalist” crowd has created a miasma of nonsense and misinformation— exploiting deep fears that are often connected to racism, sexism and ableism. But, at the heart of that cloud is the kernel of truth: A community without children has no future. A community where people give up on having kids is a sign of a deeper pessimism.
I worry about young and ambitious people I know who bring a kind of perfectionism to having kids— when it’s just one of the many ways to rejoice in being a living creature in the world.
I worry that since there isn’t reason to talk about people’s personal choices outside of very crazy right wing spaces you don’t hear anything but some depressing calculations about “the carbon footprint of having kids”
Isn’t that who we were saving up all the other carbon for?
which is why I appreciate the child-free-by-choice people who are still interested in having children in their lives. The tías and tíos that are also important in showing children that there are other ways of being a happy adult than the way their parents are.
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