One of the many treats of #ADHD I hate the most: ADHDers have no internal motivation and rely completely on external motivation: urgency, novelty, pressure, competition and the need to belong. Except novelty they require negative emotions: anxiety and fear for urgency and pressure, competition and need to belong require shame. Hyperfocus is not for oneself but caused by seek for novelty.

To have ADHD is to battle negativ emotions all the time by doing stuff for _others_ and not for oneself. >>

@jascha I don’t know if I have adhd, but relate so much with it. I do not comprehend when my therapist tells me I’m a people pleaser because I don’t want to please people but I’m afraid not to. Thank for putting this into words.