Wendy NatherI am a horrible person and I fucked up bigtime.
Thank you all for your kind words, but I really did fuck up. I let down a friend whom I deeply admire, I did something I knew they hated, and even if I didn’t do it on purpose, the impact is the same. So I have to make up for it somehow.
Matt Blaze@wendynather You have a big heart, and you need to remember that, too.
JulieR
jbaggs@wendynather The fact that you realize the impact and feel the way you do about it negates the possibility of you being a horrible person.
Nick Danger@wendynather As a daily fucker upper - you'll get through this. 🤗
CatSalad🐈🥗 (D.Burch) 
@wendynather You're such a good person, and we all make mistakes. I hope you can make it up with your friend. 🫂
Marco Tietz@wendynather live and learn. That's what makes us human. How boring it would be if we were perfect.
Greg Bell@wendynather as a substitute for a hair shirt you could pick one of those t-shirts with a tag that constantly digs into your neck *just* enough to be annoying but not quite enough to make you go cut it out.
And while wearing it you'll think of the right way to make things up to your friend, and remember that only decent people ever feel badly about letting their friends down.
Adam Shostack 
@wendynather While I acknowledge your admirable emotional response, I expect perfection of me, not you.
I try to be generous with my friends, realizing that sometimes they make mistakes, and I hope they do the same for me.
Risotto Bias@adamshostack @wendynather https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NWHJsnucXfg literally you two xD
(warning, yelling)
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Michael Weiss@adamshostack @wendynather oh no, Adam. I fully expect perfection out of you. Don't let me down! 😉
Lisa Lorenzin (she/her)@wendynather ugggh, that is the *worst* feeling. I hope you find a way to make up for it, I hope they extend you the grace that I'm sure you'd extend to them, and I hope you both come out the other side of it with a friendship strengthened by this trial. 🫂
Dewey Ritten (taylor's version) @wendynather I understand, but remember you're only human <3 I hope it works out
marasawr@wendynather When you wear the hair shirt and centre the harm instead of your feelings about having caused it, fuckups are invitations to growth, candour, and grace
And because this is you, I’m sure the stack of shall/must compensating controls preventing recurrence could form the curtain walls of a mediaeval fortress 🖤
HTTP 1.1/418 Teapot@wendynather Ooooh god. I have definitely been in that kind of situation and somehow crawling on the floor while raving about my idiocy like Gollum talking about hobbits or some shit doesn’t actually help so then what the fuck am I supposed to do.
Much sympathy and I hope you fix things as best you can.
Much sympathy and I hope you fix things as best you can.
Bill Taroli 
@wendynather Have you had a chance to talk to them? We all screw up despite our best intentions. But when we accept our error and are genuine in our attrition they know it. I also know what that spiral feels like, and that it’s often not as world ending as we internalize. A conversation with them might also help ground those thoughts. Sending hugs.
spaf@wendynather The measure of a person is not what they do based on accident or circumstance, but what they do afterwards.
Every one of us does things that, in retrospect, may not have been the best choice. Sometimes, we don't have all the information. Sometimes, our options are constrained.
It is what we choose to do next that helps define us.
Nick Selby @spaf @wendynather Yea. What Spaf said.