@hosford42 @moi @actuallyautistic @alice
I first got "diagnosed" by my daughter's boyfriend who has ADHD. My daughter was incredulous as she'd never previously realised my issues (I self-medicated a lot).

I've since gone down something of a rabbit hole including thanks to lovely people here like Alice. I'm definitely towards the left of the "gifted"-"autistic" axis and a lot of my issues may be due to social anxiety and a lifetime of trying to deal with that in high pressure jobs, with subsequent PTSD. It doesn't matter. What does matter is being open an helpful to each other so we can each unpeel whatever issues we do have. I wouldn't have been able to do so without the support of people here (it's not over by any means).

What I'm struggling to say is the ultimate diagnosis is not known to us nor is it relevant initially, and we need help getting there and beyond it. I've also had professional help from a shrink for the past seven years. But she wasn't the one who progressed my understanding; she mainly validated what I'd learned elsewhere and has been very supportive. But, despite "only" having social anxiety, there's a ton of ADHD and autistic stuff I can more than just relate to with my executive dysfunction. We're complex creatures.

Gah, this was harder to get from my noggin onto the page than I thought, and it's gone 2am. Just saying that any potential misdiagnosis I may have made (and may still make) along the way is always just tentative, as it's a learning process.