if you haven't seen my spouse's post, my father-in-law, @inoru_no_hoshi's dad, passed away earlier Friday evening a little bit before 1900 Pacific.

it's taken a bit for it to hit as real.

it's extra hard because we're 1200 miles away from that side of the family; my mother-in-law et al are in Washington near Olympia, and we're not in a place to be able to drop things and go up there, either financially or in terms of that our life is made up of doctor's appointments and therapy sessions, all scheduled significantly in advance; add in the separation anxiety cat and the fact that neither of us drive…

tomorrow is Shabbat, and we need it.

we'll be alright, eventually, and in the interim I'm okay not being okay.