@tinker excellent perspective. I read something once about how part of the myth of masculinity is that you'd be willing to pay "the ultimate price" in a dramatic situation, like a hero in a movie who starts out as an Everyman and has to risk his life to kill the alien or whatever. And while men who buy into this idea of masculinity might grapple with and accept the gravity of thisresponsibility (to possibly take life or sacrifice their own life as an act of protection), they may not be willing to do the everyday things that make life possible: taking care of kids and home, etc. for most people, that heroic moment of sacrifice never comes, and meanwhile they're leaving the dishes and cooking to someone else.